1. Know What You Want Ahead of Time



Most women are simply embarrassingly grateful if any man asks them out. When you focus on the kind of man that you want you begin to unconsciously send out signals to that type of man that you would like to be approached.

2. Prepare Yourself Mentally

Visualize yourself being approached by the type of man you are interested in. Put as much detail into this image as possible. What will you say? What will you do? Picturing this ahead of time will make sure that you are never at a loss as to what to say.

3. Research Ahead of Time

Are you attracted to jocks? Read up on the type of sports that he may be interested in. Are computer brainiacs more your speed? Go online and learn the basics so that you can have an intelligent conversation with him.

4. Pamper Yourself

Begin preparing for your dream date before you have even been asked out. Start with once a week facials, get a good brand of shampoo and conditioner, and buy an at home manicure set. The more care that you take with your appearance the more likely it is that he will notice you.

5. Gut Your Closet

Go to your closet right now and give away anything that you haven't worn in the last two years. Throw out the shirts and jeans that are falling apart or that are so faded that you can barely tell what color they are. And get some good sturdy hangers to hang your clothes on. Finally budget some money to get a few key pieces to complete what is left of your wardrobe.

6. Take Five Minutes More with Your Appearance

Apply a little lip gloss and mascara. You don't have to throw on the full war paint, especially during the day. But when you take the extra time on your appearance you will inevitably look and feel more attractive. Your confidence will go up and you will be less likely to focus on all of your so called "negative" qualities.

7. Make an Extra Effort to Meet His Eyes

Most women look down when a man approaches, even if he is simply walking by. Be different. Meet his gaze and hold it for a second or two when you pass. Then give a slight nod. This will definitely get his attention.

8. Smile for Goodness Sake

Smiling has been known to take at least ten years off of your appearance and studies show that a smiling woman is more attractive to men than one who doesn't smile. Plus it lets him know that you are open to his approach.

9. Practice Flirting

Don't be a tease but some light hearted flirting never hurt anyone. It will help you practice for the guys that you truly want to date and it will make your first few practice guys feel good. Just be careful not to overdue it.

10. Get Out of the House

You may be the most beautiful woman in the world but no one will ever notice if you choose to lock yourself in the house every weekend and week night. Go out. Join clubs. Go to bookstores. Smile at men in cafes. Be active and out there. Give men the opportunity to approach you and appreciate you.