There are many reasons for this new outlook on dating with an age difference. Some of these reasons are sensible and reflect growth and improvement in our culture. The usual age of these prospective marriage partners was around fourteen, and society has decided that females need a few more years to mature and reach their potential before becoming a wife and a mother. Some of the reasons are not quite that sensible. There is in our society a feeling that any dating relationship in which the partners are not within months of each other’s age is somehow inappropriate.
That in a nutshell is the only major hurdle that needs to be overcome. There are going to be people out there who are going to be sure to let you know what they think of your May/December romance. If you are the type that tends to not get overly upset about the opinions of others, especially those that deal with your personal life, then you should have pretty smooth sailing. After all there is a reason why there is such a difference in the maturation rates of the different genders. If for millions of years it has been fairly normal for there to be an age difference in relationships, than it is a good bet it is something down there in our DNA causing that!
Ultimately, all of the other factors that determine success in a dating relationship are going to be in play here. Human beings are too diverse in just about everyway that counts to make any hard and fast rules about a proper age difference. The only rule that really counts is that “legal age" rule. Once you are sure you are dealing with a fellow adult, and you can handle some of your friends freaking out a bit, it is just going to be a matter of compatibility and attraction just like any other date. Perhaps a good approach for any couple to take when considering entering a dating relationship can be expressed with this question: How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you really were?"
Age Difference In Relationships
As everyone knows, girls as usual mature faster than boys. In the FSU countries this process is even more accelerated. Many children here know about a lack of money and food (it's not a secret that Soviet government sold corn while people there were duying from femine), they watch all that corruption and unfair proceedings of the country, challenges of life. Girls, in particular, often face behavior that in some other countries could be considered harassment: many women can find a job and earn money only if they win favor of their male bosses; often ladies are perceived as merely dolls without brains. Basic instinct of self-preservation and aiming for improvement make search for better alternatives and men, who can appreciate them.
Until recent years there was a tendency among Russian/Ukrainian women to marry men close to their age who were either their high school sweethearts or college and university pals. Statistics show that 50-60% of marriages break within first three years of the union. Many women end up leaving the relationship with children, as well as disappointment in men their age from their home country. As a result, they turn to foreign men who are older and expect them to be more courteous, wise and caring.
An additional factor in searching for older men is also women's psychological perception. Since many girls grow up in "incomplete" families and are abandoned by their fathers, when they search for a relationship, on a subconscious level they veer more towards older partners. In other words, they are looking for a "father figure". They sometimes don't even realize it, but when they turn to older men, they are looking for someone to be their protector, someone who'd take care of them and give them security they were deprived of as a child.
Although such pressure is getting less in the current days, until recently a lady could be viewed as an old maid unless she got married by the age of 22-23. On the contrary, most men do not face much pressure and begin getting serious about starting a family only close to their 30s. That automatically puts a 7-8 year difference between the partners. Add to it the time that men spent with the "wrong" partner in a previous marriage or relationship, and that puts available male candidates right at their late 30s ? early 40s, which creates such a drastic age difference between the ladies and them.
Bottom line is: true love has no boundaries. If you find someone who seems attractive and interests you as a person, be daring and take a chance of finding your despite the age and distance.
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