Exactly what are you attempting to say? Are you clear enough to get across the point to others? Predictably we need to become a lot clearer about things we would like. This concerns all and everything, from everyday practical matters to dealing with distressing feelings. The mystery seems to be to do with how to get that clarity and then to uncover the answers to problems. The 7 Words System offers a straightforward instinctive system that allows us to reach a much better knowledge of what precisely we are trying to find. It opens with No. To begin with, we will need identify exactly what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Back to basics meeting guide: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

What can you learn from others about ways to present your point? The following phase relates to the word Hello. We will certainly need to open up to new potential if we are to expand our scope of answers to the many difficulties that often arise for us. Is that reasonably logical? To get something new we will need to broaden our scope and look where we have not formerly looked earlier. Original ideas, new contacts , new places and new things are clearly characteristic of giving reflection to something we have not previously gone through. It requires that we replace old for new, that can tender something in reasonable return for what are trying to get.

Back to basics meeting guide: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

What do you most value about the people you are addressing? Do they feel appreciated? Between all available opportunities, some are more pleasing than others and of course we want them to have a higher worth, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Repeatedly, we overlook the importance of what we have, slip into ingratitude and are likely to take things for granted. It's more than merely a courtesy to show our appreciation for things we treasure; it has an important consequence in helping us to achieve our goals. Psychologically we are magnetized to what we express gratitude for, and yet it's equally accurate to say that we are able to draw them to us too. We improve our magnetism when we say Thanks and therefore, whenever we do this, we naturally bring things to us.

Back to basics meeting guide: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

After you have delivered your message, will your audience's understanding be forever different? The word Goodbye is the fourth of the 7 primary words and has to do with a process that has 4 clearly defined phases. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying Goodbye to is a particular stage of development, and therefore could be understood plainly as absolute exclusion of a possible course of action that previously we had been going towards and in future will not pursue. It is a turning point in our selection of potential outcomes. Goodbye is different from No because it suggests that there has been a degree of involvement already, which now needs to end compared to No's repudiation in the first place. Bona fide decisions cut the past away entirely and that penetration forms an open door that otherwise does not come to exist.

Back to basics meeting guide: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

What is the message trying to achieve...what's your intended outcome? The future develops according to the routines of the past unless we take control of it and shape it to our wants. To do this compels us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, specific and optimistic—and converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather unreal and the second is much more directed and conscious. For a dream to become real there must be cooperation. Nothing can be done without acquiring the aid of other people - this takes skill, most likely arguments, even inspiration. It is not always obligatory to offer something such as money or money's worth.

Back to basics meeting guide: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility for your part in any misunderstandings that have arisen? Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good damage done because we've been thoughtless or heedless to the circumstances of another. The best strategy is to make sure we forestall the need to say it by being considerate sooner. Why? Well it's because anyone we upset could easily be inclined to act against us and lessen our chances of achievement of our goals, so it is obviously more shrewd to take into account others as well as ourselves. This question is all to do with being responsible, having a degree of concern for anyone we've upset and making amends when we've slipped up. Then and only then will it ever be possible to prevent the likelihood or heal bitterness and leave go of the permanent nastiness that otherwise would increase and rankle.

Back to basics meeting guide: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Not every communication will be effective, sometimes you will need to accept that. There is almost always another way, another day...the final phase of our 7 Words structure is to do with acceptance; there are times when we simply have to agree to what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be perfect wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in fact we can't. We always need to take what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.

The greatest thing is to place reliance on the fact that everything in the long run turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when understood in the perspective of the longer term. Unquestionably it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! Still wait a bit and you'll see that the serendipitous happenings, the surprises and frustrations are actually the best bits masquerading as misfortune.