Alpha males might seem to have it all, but they weren't born with the sharp suits and the bevy of female admirers. In fact, most of them started out with nothing more than a good attitude.



If you want to emulate the alpha males - or even become one - your job and your waistline are simply not important. All that you really need is some top class body language and a bit of determination.

And I'm here to help.

If you want to look like an alpha male, the first thing you need to do is learn to stand like one. Nervous men stuff their hands in their pockets and hunch in darkened corners; alpha males stand up straight with their arms at their sides. Pull your shoulders back and stand proud.

Move into the center of the room. This will make you more noticeable, and will also give the impression that you're confident and sociable.

Think about what you're doing with your hands. You want to seem calm and confident, so don't fidget or jiggle. Slower, steadier movements suggest a more relaxed and attractive demeanor.

Don't fold your arms or cross your legs. These habits effectively shut you off from the person you're talking to and make you appear defensive and unwelcoming. Alpha males adopt a friendly, expansive posture, standing with their arms hanging loosely by their sides, or leaning casually against a fireplace or a chair.

If you're at your most nervous when talking to girls, you need to learn to hide it. Anxiety is not attractive to a chick -acting as though you both deserve and appreciate her attention is the only way most men can hope to get it.

When you're talking to a girl, hold her gaze. Don't be caught glancing nervously around you or staring at something - or someone - behind her. Maintain steady eye contact and listen to what she's saying.

Put her at ease by smiling and asking the sort of open ended questions which get her talking about what she enjoys. Her stunning dress, favorite vacation destinations or the special occasion you're both celebrating are all ideal topics. Focusing on the things which bring her pleasure will encourage her to associate happy feelings with being close to you.

If you're still on edge, consciously ask yourself if your muscles feel tight. Simply thinking the word "relax" will help them loosen off. Similarly, make a mental effort to slow your breathing down to a calm and steady pace. Getting your body to act confident will help you to actually feel it.

And that's the best thing about learning alpha male body language. Yes, it gets you noticed by the right people and for the right reasons, but it also makes you feel better about yourself. Stand tall and meet a girl's gaze and soon you won't just be playing the alpha male, you will have actually become one.

Calm, confident and self assured, you'll be the sort of man bosses give promotions to, airlines grant free upgrades for, and gorgeous women really do go out of their way to meet.