Modern society presents the teenager with many circumstances which can easily lead to stress and one of the main sources of stress for teenagers is to be found right at home in the shape of parents. That is not to say that parents are the direct cause of stress but the role that parents play can often create situations in which stress can develop for both themselves are their teenage children.
Setting a developing person adrift in today's complex society is a near guarantee of stress and this is basically the result of a perceived, insoluble conflict for the teenager between "I must" and "I can't". In other words the teenager finds himself in a situation where he feels that he must do something but simply can't do it for any one of a variety of different reasons. For an adult this problem would often not arise and the adult would be able to solve the problem but, in many cases, it is indeed true that the teenager can't.
Nobody would expect a thirteen year-old to know how to negotiate the challenges of the modern world without guidance. People aren't born knowing how cope with the rigors of adult life and such knowledge is rarely attained by the age of thirteen.
However, by the age of thirteen a boys and girls are no longer a children and are starting to develop a complex systems of values and certainly have some knowledge of the world. They also have the ability to begin exercising their powers independently and, when their independence is stifled the opportunity to test theories and solve problems is also stifled.
At this point in a young person's life they are between two alternatives, both of which provide the potential for stress. One alternative is that of independence in the sense of being totally abandoned to one's own devices and the other is a lack of independence in not being allowed to make choices and deal with the consequences.
The former leaves the teen in the position of having to solve problems they simply aren't ready to solve and the latter makes it extremely difficult for them to gain or expand their ability to solve problems.
Teenagers themselves recognize this problem and will often voice this recognition in comments such as "You never let me have my way" or "I'm old enough to make my own decisions". In response, some parents react by declaring that they will take whatever decisions need to be taken, while others will allow their teenagers the freedom they are asking for and simply leave them to 'sink or swim'.
The parent's dilemma is knowing in which circumstances to retain control of the decision making process and in which circumstances to let their teenagers have their heads. For the teenager however there is a great deal that can be done to help their parents out of this dilemma and save themselves a great deal of stress in the process.
Teenagers fall between the two stones of being children and being adults and can assist greatly by demonstrating that they are no longer the first and by emulating the second. Although it may appear to be something of a paradox, voluntarily taking on responsibility is a very effective way to minimize stress before it builds.
Although responsibility can lead to stress if it is met with resentment or fear, it can also help build those skills needed to head off stress before it grows if it is met with confidence and persistence.
The best way for a teenager to reduce the stress which comes from the fear of failure or the problem of dealing with stubborn parents is to successfully tackle the challenges by school and home life. Sometimes this will mean having to face failure and to start over but teenagers will gain practical knowledge from undertaking challenges and build psychological strength from the mere attempt at solving problems.
Catch 22 Book Review
Corporate life can take a serious toll on the mind, particularly if you happen to be the one caught amidst the company's hustle and bustle. There are a thousand things that need to be done any given shift, and you'd need at least a shift just to get one of those tasks to be done properly. There are also the occasional added duties of the typical employee, such as the meeting with the boss, rant sessions with fellow employees, and the pressures and responsibilities that the typical worker adds to his already overwhelming set of problems. The need for stress relief is most commonly seen among people who are doing the dry grunt-work of a company, the ones working the trenches at the front lines of the ?corporate war.?
Of course, a company employee may not necessarily be fighting a ?war? against the company's enemies, or business rivals, as the case may be. For anyone who has ever read the novel ?Catch-22,? the rather daunting concept of a soldier fighting the rigid bureaucracy of his own army is a humorous, unpleasant yet all too realistic storyline. Unfortunately, for some corporate employees, the Catch-22 is an everyday ordeal. They find themselves willing to fight even their own corporate bosses. Even worse is when there is no convenient or regular source of stress relief, which tends to wear down a person's mind and makes the situation much worse. Once a person thinks the situation is getting worse, it inevitably really does become worse, through some dismiss it as a mere quirk of fate. Yes, this sounds terribly pessimistic, but there are several people who go to their jobs day after day --- resigned to go through the daily drudgery.
The fact is, there are always a few disgruntled, disenfranchised, and disillusioned employees who will look at the corporate power structure and only see the Catch-22 bureaucracy. They literally see policies leading them around in circles, with stress relief being just a pipe dream --- with each step leading to the path of madness. Of course, madness is not included as a job skill requirement although in some lines of work that involve creativity, being somewhat ?looney? is an unwritten prerequisite.
Dealing with a Catch-22 bureaucracy can be taxing on your mental health, whether you're fighting it or you're trying to work with it. There is ample anecdotal evidence to show that attempting to work within a bureaucracy that keeps on going around in circles can drive employees to develop frequent bouts of nausea. Besides the nausea, chronic fatigue also seems to be a growing problem among employees that attempt to survive in a Catch-22 environment. Mental fatigue is also a problem, as some people tend to spend hours upon hours trying to figure out how to get out of the mess that the company's policies have gotten them into, all the while realizing that any attempt to get out is likely just going to get them deeper into the problem.
Naturally, from a realistic point of view, the above situation is hardly feasible, but if work-related stress and anxiety are not dealt with in a timely and effective manner, it can lead to some unpleasant situations. For the most part, the common reaction when the situations get extreme is to simply try and find a way to escape, or at least get into a position where the bureaucracy is less constrained. In a corporate environment, the former is little more than just removing yourself from the company's employ, and the latter means working within the constraints to get into a position of power. Of course, working twice as hard just to get away from the bureaucracy means the company will be getting more work out of an employee, but not have to pay more. Why does that sound like exactly what your typical corporate slave driver actually wants? If it does start sounding that way, then it is a safe assumption that your stress and anxiety at work has gone past being an anxiety disorder and developed into a full-blown paranoia. Next thing you know, you'll start thinking they're all out to get rid of you.
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