Have you been to a function in a room full of strangers and felt lost for words? The art of introducing yourself and having small talk comes naturally to some people, but there are others who feel shy, embarrassed and don't know how to began type. There are four types of communications: small talk, fact disclosure, share viewpoints and opinions and personal opinions.
1. Small talk
In new relations the safest way to began is to talk on current topics. For example, make a comment about the inclement weather, recent events or surroundings you are in.
It is called small talk and it is indulged into "size up" the other person to decide the level of rapport between the two of you. There is no requirement to divulge personal details in this first encounter, which is just an interaction to learn how "safe" they are on your first meeting.
If you feel comfortable with each other you may slip into next stage of communication: fact disclosure.
2. Fact disclosure
It is a bit deeper than small talk in which you disclose facts about yourself without involvement of emotions.
The objective of fact disclosure is to find if you have anything in common. You may use common grounds to develop friendship. You may talk of carrier, hobbies and where you reside.
3. Share viewpoints and opinions
Once you have concluded that the other person is "safe" via small talk and have also discovered areas of similar interest you may build rapport by sharing your viewpoints and opinions.
But by sharing these you lay yourself open to objections and scrutiny by other person. Enter this level only after you are comfortable in first two levels and you both share positive feelings.
You should also be prepared to listen to his opinions. This will let your friendship survive.
Ensure that you don't use your views to "character assassinate" another person as this will create a feeling in your friends mind that you are a negative person and it may persuade your new friend to distance himself/herself from you.
4. Share personal feelings
After building of trust, having things in common and listening to viewpoints and opinions of others, you can share your personal feelings. This is when an acquaintance becomes a genuine friend.
You can share things of deep value without any fear. You both listen to each other. At this stage it is necessary to have a little distance. Too much closeness leads to relations going sour. If you know how to handle your feelings and respect other people's you can build a successful friendship which will last a lifetime.
It was being discussed how an ability to communicate is, of help in utilizing the law of attraction to work for you both in terms of clarity, of your ordering and your way of communicating which helps you to get along in life.
Good communications skills are necessary for progress in life. They are even important for law of attraction or cosmic ordering, in as much as it is necessary to make your order clear to the universe. Also the people who are better at communicating generally get whatever they desire in life and have the required charm to make things happen.
The Blarney Stone is a historical Stone, which is part of Blarney castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone could grant you the gift of gab. It does seem strange in this age and day. But there are people and lots of them who believe in it.
So what better way to began by learning to be an effective communicator is to know the person closest to you: yourself. The law of attraction will work better for you if you do.
Communication Skills And Leadership
There are many well known exceptional leaders in all fields of endeavor. There are also some great ones who aren't well known outside their own communities. I asked a number of such people what makes a good leader. Here are the remaining answers in the last of three articles on leadership.
Todd Korahais, CEO of Keller-Williams Realty in Greenville, SC, believes, “There are great managers who devise and implement systems that people imitate, but that's not leadership. The final definition of leadership is Legacy. If the leader never eyes, grooms, and develops his/her replacement(s), they never lead. They were simply imitated.”
Judy Suiter, President of Competitive Edge, Inc. in Atlanta, GA, says, “The most important qualities of good leaders are: They tell the truth. They show respect for all people inside and outside their organization. They have an accurate perception of their own style and how their style impacts others. They have a clear understanding of their own values and practice ‘walking their talk.' They have the ability to get others to want to follow them. They put the needs of the organization above their own.”
Sandy Vilas, CEO of CoachInc, writes, “A leader listens to his team and always encourages input. A leader is a visionary who can take the business to new heights while keeping the team excited and motivated. A leader is not afraid to make and implement tough decisions. A leader works hard at catching people doing things right and acknowledges them appropriately.”
John Walton, Director of Safety and Compliance for Averitt Express, Inc. believes, “My goal has always been to lead my associates in a manner I would want my leader to be and that leadership style begins with having a clear vision, being a good listener, asking questions, identifying clear pinpoints, objectives and measurements for every team member. Secondly, as a leader you must know the strengths and weaknesses of each associate and make sure to position them in a manner they will succeed in completing their tasks. Be bold enough to take responsibility for failures and be quick to share the credit with the team. Good leaders surround themselves with quality people and it is critical to empower each to use their natural abilities to be the best they can be and continue to improve. It is imperative as a leader to set a positive example, be willing to do the little things, be confident in your role and instill discipline in the team. It is my desire to know when and how to lead and on the flip side, when and how to follow!”
John Warner, Vice President of Strategy and Communication for KEMET Corporation, says, “The best leaders I have known are builders. They have a passionate vision for what they want to create, and they are very focused on getting there, sometimes to the point of being seen as myopic. They have empathy for the people around them, at least in terms of getting people to buy into helping them achieve their vision. People around great leaders usually do not see as clearly where the organization is going, either because they had not done the same intense homework to understand the landscape or because they do not have the God-given talent to see a future that does not yet exist. Great leaders attract people to them, not because people necessarily agree with where the leader is going, but because they believe the leader is going somewhere important and they want to go along to what they believe will be a better place.”
Jane Yousey, a Life Coach from Connecticut who teaches a graduate leadership course at the University of Indianapolis, is clear and to the point. She says, “The sign of a mature leader is the self-awareness that there is MUCH more still to learn and master.”
Future leaders of the world, take note. These are some of the qualities possessed by the world's greatest leaders.
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