Have you been to a function in a room full of strangers and felt lost for words? The art of introducing yourself and having small talk comes naturally to some people, but there are others who feel shy, embarrassed and don't know how to began type. There are four types of communications: small talk, fact disclosure, share viewpoints and opinions and personal opinions.

1. Small talk

In new relations the safest way to began is to talk on current topics. For example, make a comment about the inclement weather, recent events or surroundings you are in.

It is called small talk and it is indulged into "size up" the other person to decide the level of rapport between the two of you. There is no requirement to divulge personal details in this first encounter, which is just an interaction to learn how "safe" they are on your first meeting.

If you feel comfortable with each other you may slip into next stage of communication: fact disclosure.

2. Fact disclosure

It is a bit deeper than small talk in which you disclose facts about yourself without involvement of emotions.

The objective of fact disclosure is to find if you have anything in common. You may use common grounds to develop friendship. You may talk of carrier, hobbies and where you reside.

3. Share viewpoints and opinions

Once you have concluded that the other person is "safe" via small talk and have also discovered areas of similar interest you may build rapport by sharing your viewpoints and opinions.

But by sharing these you lay yourself open to objections and scrutiny by other person. Enter this level only after you are comfortable in first two levels and you both share positive feelings.

You should also be prepared to listen to his opinions. This will let your friendship survive.

Ensure that you don't use your views to "character assassinate" another person as this will create a feeling in your friends mind that you are a negative person and it may persuade your new friend to distance himself/herself from you.

4. Share personal feelings

After building of trust, having things in common and listening to viewpoints and opinions of others, you can share your personal feelings. This is when an acquaintance becomes a genuine friend.

You can share things of deep value without any fear. You both listen to each other. At this stage it is necessary to have a little distance. Too much closeness leads to relations going sour. If you know how to handle your feelings and respect other people's you can build a successful friendship which will last a lifetime.

It was being discussed how an ability to communicate is, of help in utilizing the law of attraction to work for you both in terms of clarity, of your ordering and your way of communicating which helps you to get along in life.

Good communications skills are necessary for progress in life. They are even important for law of attraction or cosmic ordering, in as much as it is necessary to make your order clear to the universe. Also the people who are better at communicating generally get whatever they desire in life and have the required charm to make things happen.

The Blarney Stone is a historical Stone, which is part of Blarney castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone could grant you the gift of gab. It does seem strange in this age and day. But there are people and lots of them who believe in it.

So what better way to began by learning to be an effective communicator is to know the person closest to you: yourself. The law of attraction will work better for you if you do.