You've already failed many times, although you may not remember. And that's mainly because you've already conquered your fear of failure in those areas.
The next time you feel like quitting, remember this story:
At age 22 he failed in business;
at age 23 he ran for state legislature and lost;
at age 24 he failed in business again;
at age 26 his sweatheart died and he was broken-hearted;
at age 27 he had a nervous breakdown;
at age 34 he ran for Congress and lost;
at age 39 he ran for Congress again, and lost again;
at age 46 he ran for Senate and lost;
at age 47 his ticket lost when he ran for Vice President;
at age 49 he ran for Senate again, and lost again;
at age 51 he ran and was elected as the President of the United States.
His name was Abraham Lincoln.
Make up your mind that if you try anything worthwhile, you will fail at it first.
Learn something, and try again.
Every baseball fan knows that Babe Ruth hit 714 home runs, but they probably won't be able to tell you that he struck out 1,330 times.
R.H. Macy failed in seven different business endeavors before his store in New York caught on.
English novelist John Creasy got 753 rejection slips before he published his 564 books
Jonas Salk worked for fifteen years before he found the vaccine for polio. That was FIFTEEN YEARS of CONTINUOUS FAILURE for ONE SUCCESS! But look at the benefit to mankind.
I suggest we revise one old adage to: "If something is worth doing, it's worth doing badly."
Anything you can do well the first time you try it is too simple to be of any consequence.
Several years ago, Columbia University was revising a part of the curriculum for their graduate business school and asked dozens of successful businessmen what the most important ingredient for success was.
The answer wasn't charisma, education, money, salesmanship,or leadership qualities.
It was persistence.
You don't learn much when you're successful, but you certainly learn when you do something wrong. Learn to lookat your failures as learning experiences and you'll begin to almost look foreward to failing (almost).
Success and failure have the same root - the desire to achieve - but avoiding failure is not the same as achieving success.
Failure is determined by what you allow to happen, success by what you make happen.
It is extremely important to emphasize the concept of failure as a positive experience in your life. The only time failure becomes negative is when you stop the effort after the failure.
When you give up.
There's only one thing worse - not trying in the first place.
So don't worry about failure. Worry about the chances you miss when you don't even try.
Conquer Fear Of Heights
Like kryptonite to superman as fear is to communicating confidently. Fear is the acid that eats away confidence. Fear is the one tonne bolder that holds back a person from being confident. Fear is the Achilles of self-confidence.
You will build more confidence once you remove the "kryptonite, acid, or one tonne bolder" that is fear. To become confident you need to have little or ultimately no fear. To remove your fears the first step is to look at your fears and understand their "birth" to see what created them.
As a baby you entered into this world in a neutral state of mind. You did not fear people looking at you or staring back at people. You did not constrain your actions because of what other people thought. You were spontaneous without a care in the world as to what other people were thinking of your actions. I think the only fear a baby has is loud noises.
This neutral state of mind changed as you aged. When you were growing up, your parents would tell you, "Watch out!", "Don't go there!", "Don't do that!", and "You're not allowed that!" Your parents conditioned your behavior. After being conditioned, what actions you took after that would be conditional on how you thought your parents would respond. You lost your independence to do as you wish and became dependent on your parents. What you could and could not do became more and more determined by your parents. This stimulated the creation of your fear of failure or fear of success.
As you became an adult, the memories of your parents telling you "Don't do that!" were implanted into your subconscious mind. This guides your current actions. These childhood experiences manifest into forms of "I can't do that!" When an opportunity comes to meet someone you see who looks really interesting, powerful, or attractive, you subconsciously reaffirm to yourself "I can't do that!" When a business opportunity arises, you do not even have a go at starting it up because you reaffirm to yourself "I can't do that!" You begin to give up without even trying.
I teach something called the "praise-blame dependency trap". The psychological trap is created when praise and blame is put on the person instead of the person's behavior. Constant praise or blame directly communicated to a person leads them to being dependent upon it.
The praise and blame becomes their behavioral "life support". They cannot live without getting the feedback of others and living up to other people's standards. Praise and blame leads to poor self-reliance and diminishing levels of confidence. It leads to needy behavior and requiring approval from other people. It leads to fear of rejection, approval, and disapproval.
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