Physical stubs can not compare to the stubs of the heart such as infidelity marital, especially after years of marriage or sharing a live together and having children. The first shock of discovering and infidelity can result in severe emotional trauma that can only be overcome with psychiatric treatment.
Reactions very from each person, from extreme violence to a cold response of indifference, it is hard to determine in any case the posterior consequences of that first impact, but for sure infidelity emotional leaves a deep distrust on the person's conception of love, marriage and relationships that will influence in his/her future attempt to reinitiate a new relationship or when dealing with love mates.
The key of coping infidelity is getting a grip on your feelings; do not get confused about forgetting or getting rid of them. Making the effort or forgetting or erasing those awful memories and feeling will have the opposite effect: They will stay in your mind more intense than ever. We can not deny our feelings and emotions, we are not machines, but for our own sake and mental health it is good to control them to a level they do not occupy your thinking all day making you feel better, worried, stressed or unable to move on with your life.
When negative thoughts are striking you head, we suggest you to do this dealing infidelity technique:
-Get a piece of paper and pencil.
-Go to a place where you can be alone.
-During 2 minutes write down all the things that come to your mind: Let them all out with no reserves.
-When time is over you say in your mind to put this matters off for later, because there are more important things to do now.
-Tear off or burn the paper in many pieces.
-Repeat the process whenever you start feeling like this.
As time goes by you will be able to face your feeling with more strength and they will start coming up less frequently. We hope this well allow to start handling your emotions in a better way.
