This subject is none other than Storytelling and



when used correctly, can make your desirability

with women sky rocket.

Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind

successful story telling and how to construct a

powerful story (which will be covered more in

depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths

when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but

as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply

the right story telling techniques, and can keep

the conversation moving, then your story does not

have to be true.

Even if the women does not believe the story, if

you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most

likely run with new conversation topics developed

from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most

powerful stories are ones that are true and come

from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the

unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets

involved and becomes part of a newly painted

reality that you and the girl get to share and

more importantly create together. (This becomes a

key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering

storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play

Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of

role playing will have to be saved for a later

issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not

whether the stories have to be true, but is more

about whether or not they have to be about the

story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to

communicate to the listener about you.

Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about

yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual

content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and

vivid language, you can convey to your listeners

such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and

over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story,

you should be able to repeat what you heard on

the news but in such a fashion that directly

makes you more interesting and displays your

personality.

Myth Two: As you get better with women you become

less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense

that you do not go into interactions with

prescripted stories as much as you may starting

out. However, it is through the skills that

storytelling develops that make you less

dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story

you have made up or written down and rehearsed,

you are able to share any subject in an

interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of

storytelling and is one of the key reasons

learning and mastering storytelling is a great

way to improve not only your skills with women,

but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication

when highlighting important parts of your life to

the listener. Not only through context, but

through delivery.

Storytelling plays a very important part in

getting to know someone and the great thing about

telling a story, is that it creates so many other

subject matters to talk about and that a story is

almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales"

by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story

is molded by the one told before it and by who

told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't

have to have a rhyme scheme during the

interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

There are many reasons storytelling is important

and if you are not currently utilizing

storytelling then consider these following facts:

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying

conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I

see with many guys. An interaction will be going

great, then conversation starts to die and there

is that awkward silence. This is a great time to

bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the

interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more

approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because

of the fear of running out of things to say. By

developing a great story or two and keeping them

in your back pocket for when you need them

creates a great since of confidence during the

initial approach and can really help limit the

anxiety that one gets when approaching a

beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the

interaction will last at least the length of your

story.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all

eyes are on you, you are the center of attention,

and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding

the attention of the group through storytelling

puts you in a dominant frame of you being the

leader of the interaction and everyone else being

the listener, waiting to see where you take the

group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you

will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction,

a good story is unforgettable. How many times

have you had someone tell you about some crazy

story that one of their friends told them?

Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an

old custom and still exists till this day. The

girl should be able to look back on the

interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the

guy who (did whatever interesting activity that

relates to you)."

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to

make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through

storytelling you learn to capture the entire

attention of the group. Also you directly convey

your personality and it gets you accustomed to

doing so. The skills that are developed from

strong storytelling directly carry over into your

social personality that make all conversation

with you more exciting and vivid. The

expressiveness you show in stories ties into your

future interactions and directly improves your

social personality.

*You can convey things through storytelling that

you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your

life that said outside the context of a story may

come off as bragging. But in a story, these

little details are never the subject of the story

thus they remain subtle but are powerful when

displaying aspects of your identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is

so effective and what you should be aiming for

when telling a story we are going to work on

creating your very own powerful stories that

cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in

Part II of this newsletter, but there is an

exercise I want you to do right now so you can

directly apply all the tips and tactics to create

an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten

moments in your life that you feel changed or

defined who you are.

If you have a funny story then that is just a

humorous time then you can feel free to include

that. But even if the story does not seem major,

just entertaining, the fact that you can remember

it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not

depressing) but we do learn through negative

experiences. We will eventually cut these down to

just a couple stories in Part II but for now I

just want you to get into the habit of taking

note of interesting experiences in your life.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an

unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment

you succeeded, something funny that happened to

you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that

say they have no interesting stories. This is

just not the truth; everyone has something

interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not

be modest; even if it's a silly story write it

down. You can't be afraid to share a story,

sometimes they are hard to think of and if you

really can't think of a past story, starting

paying more attention to your every day life. And

if you still can't think of one then go take a

vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don'

t even think would be a story. But every past

event being told is a story. There is no excuse

not to have one.

Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that

you would like people to know about you.

This is going to tie into personality conveying.

Think of the things that you would like any

friend or new acquaintance to know about you.

These are the things that directly relate to your

identity and make you who you are. Do not be

surprised if these things are directly related in

some way to the stories you wrote down in

exercise one.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you

play, your job, your goals, your skills and

achievements.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot

in Part II of this newsletter to create some

super powerful stories that you can always rely

on. Also I will further go into the skills of

storytelling and how to use them to make every

story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with

you guys so you will get to see my story end

product as well.

Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and

great ready to really take storytelling to the

next level