It's a common position to be in, having to carry out a DNA test for paternity testing. DNA testing can be upsetting for all parties concerned, which is why its important to be as open and clear about the process with all parties involved. All tests should be conducted with the childs best interest as the main concern.

What is paternity testing?

Paternity testing is a test to test whether a father and child are biologically related. These tests can be carried out from 13 weeks into a pregnancy onwards and are nowadays considered 99.99% accurate. Since DNA testing has undergone many developments, paternity testing has become a simple, painless procedure that promises absolute peace of mind to all parties concerned.

When is DNA testing necessary?

Chances are, if you need to have paternity tests done, you will know about it. For some families, the need to prove paternity arises out of extra marital affairs on the part of the biological mother. Simple physical differences are often the easiest to spot indicator. So what other physical indications can you use to confirm your suspicions? Some genes are considered dominant. For example, a cleft chin and earlobe shape are widely considered to be tell tale indicators of genetic relations.

How do you go about getting a paternity test?

Luckily, the process of getting a paternity test has become much easier in the past few years. A simple cheek sample, using a cotton bud, from the mother, child and father are all you need to determine if there is a biological link. Blood samples used to be the preferred option but in the last 10 years this has now reversed to the swab from the inside of the mouth for DNA testing.

Where do you get a paternity test?

Your GP will be able to refer you to specialized DNA testing facilities, or choose an online company that is accredited to ISO/IEC 17025. In most cities, there are a number of DNA labs that will carry out paternity tests in a manner that is admissible in court. Should you want to go the legal route, you will need certain criteria fulfilled to ensure that your results can be used in a court of law.

If you just want to know for your own peace of mind, completely discreet online tests are available. Once payment has been processed, you receive a testing kit in the mail. By following the instructions carefully, you can be in possession of the results in as little as 5-10days.

Decoding results: how to deal with the news

Once you have gone through the motions, you have a few days to wait. So you have taken the bull by the horns and gotten a paternity test, are you really ready for what the results might mean for you and your family? Have you fully considered the consequences? In cases of disputed paternity, it is highly recommended that you get some professional help. A counselor, psychologist or even lawyer are all excellent places to start for some much needed support, and answers during this difficult time.

Whatever happens, you will be able to say with absolute certainty that you know the truth. Remember that the paternity test should only be taken if it is in the best interests of the child. It's quick, easy and the answer might just change your life.