The perfect evening out with the girls ends in meeting a great guy and actually getting his phone number, and giving him yours, right? Well of course! You then do your secret little victory dance while he is not looking, and pride yourself on being strong and walking away with only a kiss and a smile. But then - the sinking feeling begins as the wait prolongs. Should YOU call him? How long do you wait? What if he never calls?



Let me give you some advice, woman to woman. Women do NOT make the first call. Do you want to be the one doing the chasing, or do you want him to chase you? 99% of women want the MAN to do the chasing. So let him. It is natural for the man to be the one doing the chasing in a relationship.

Actually, most men LIKE to be the pursuer in a relationship. Women perceived in the roll of the aggressor can be easily misconstrued as pushy, clingy or needy. Even if that was not your intent, it can be seen that way - so - let him call you.

Reason number two to let him be the first to call - one little word - "effort". Have you ever heard the old saying "Why buy the cow if you can have the milk for free?" Well, from a dating perspective, if you are so eager for him that you cannot even wait for him to call you - what does he have to do? Nothing. He knows you want him, and that gives him the advantage.

Now, what else does that do? There is a little thought of side-effect to chasing the man that many women do not even think about. It totally eliminates attraction. Think of dating as a game of cat and mouse. Take the fun out, and who wants to play? He certainly won't.

Thirdly - you are in demand, baby! You need to show him, or let him believe that you are in demand, you are a sought after item and you are not going to be on the shelf for long! Do not, under any circumstance, let him think that you are sitting by the phone eagerly awaiting his call.

And while you very well MAY BE sitting there waiting for him to call - don't you DARE pick up that phone the first time he does! You are OUT! You are having fun, somewhere, NOT thinking of him. If you have to duct tape the phone to the wall - do not answer it. Wait a minimum of three hours before calling him back. Better yet, wait until the next day. His imagination will do wonders for YOU.

The fourth reason to wait for the man to call is simple. Security. If, for the first month you are going out, he is always the one calling for the date - you will KNOW that he wants you. You will know that he is interested in YOU and thinking of you. You won't have to wonder if he is just being polite, killing time, or whatever. Security in yourself will breed attraction, as well, and he will see it, and he will like it!

As a woman, you should always let the man do the calling at the beginning of the relationship. So the next time you get that phone number - snuggle it, kiss it, tape it to your fridge, but do NOT place that call. Let him be the man and do the chasing. You will feel better for letting him!