Are there "magic" words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call. Cool huh? I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

"How to get my ex back" will start with getting your ex to return your phone call, IM or text message. Remember, this can be done easily, but it's just a simple formula and not a complete plan. You can learn more about that in our ebook. If you do this right, it will be the begining of a wonderfull get back together with your ex.

First, be aware of what you must never say. A lot of people fall for the usual mistakes, taking them into a very difficult position with theirs ex instead of helping get them back. These are the most common:

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like "John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you." Of course, this call is not going to be returned. And if it is, you will be in a disadvantage position. You don't want your ex to call you back because he pities you!

And the EMERGENCY-"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this." This is an awful way to try to get your ex attention. It may work the first time, if your ex thinks you are really in an emergency, but once the truth is discovered, you will be considered a liar and desperate. This is only going to get your ex farther from you.

These common approaches simply don't work, or work opossed to what you want. If you really want your ex attention, there are methods much more effective. Let's review a simple one.

Use curiosity and self interest. The most powerful forces in the human mind are our curiosity and our self interest. This is the big secret: combine the two and you have an instant "magic" technique. This will work every time!

Call your ex and say something like "Hello, it's me. I just wanted to tell you that I really appreciate what you did for me. When you get the chance, give me a call so I can tell you personaly". Can you see how this uses curiosity and self interest in one sweep? Your ex can't resist calling you back! "What is it that I did?", "Appreciates what?", your ex will think. Also, it's a positive message, so he/she will get in the phone for sure.

Now, prepare mentally for what you are going to say. What did your ex did right for you? Maybe it was some advice or a positive criticism that helped you. Maybe it was when you needed to talk with someone and she/he was there for you. Work on this so you can tell your ex about it. Just remember that you will get a call back and maybe a date, but this is just the beginning of getting your ex back. You need a plan.

Applying this thechnique, you will have your ex call you back, but you need a strategy to win her/him back. If not, this could do more bad than good. When you have a plan, what you do before, during and after you get them to call you back is even more important that just getting the call. So, this is the basic technique to get them to return a call, now get ready to create a plan to get your ex back.