Perhaps, you are really feeling troubled by the above questions. Well, if you are thinking of how to get your ex back, perhaps, one of the things you can do is to agree with the break up.



I believe you must be feeling quite puzzled. "What! Agree with the break up?"

Yes, I know what I am telling you here is very counter intuitive. A very controversial way of doing things indeed. But it works very well for many people. Let me explain why it works so well.

This is really related to this principle, "People Want What They Do Not Have." In other words, if people don't have something or can't get something easily, the more they want it.

So, if you argue about the break up. You are in fact violating this principle. That is why arguing about the break up usually doesn't work. In fact, it makes matter worse. Arguing about the break up can take several forms, not necessary "Arguing".

For example, you may try to reason with your ex. You may try to convince or persuade him/her back to the relationship. You may try to tell him/her how much you love him/her. This is indirectly telling your ex that you are easy to get.

When your ex knows that you are easy to get, it will make him/her less interested in you.

On the contrary, if you remain calm and cool and accept the break up graciously, you are telling him that, "Okay, it is fine. I will still be happy with or without you. Don't expect me to beg you to come back to the relationship."

Can you see the difference here? Can you see how you are using this principle to your advantage? Now, you are not someone who is easy to get. So, it will probably make your ex regret his/her decision of the break up.

I know it may not be easy for you to remain calm and cool but you have to try and I believe you can do it.

Of course, you will also want to make use of this period to improve yourself in different areas of your life. When your ex sees the positive changes in you, he/she will more likely want to get back with you. This will increase your chances of getting back with your ex.