You may be thinking that one of the best ways to getting your ex boyfriend back is if you somehow manage to sincerely prove to him how much you really care and how much you love him, but the truth is, there is more to it than that and the way you show your love is only one aspect of the whole getting-back-together process.

Because of the heartache and the confusion it's easy to make mistakes on the way and that's why this article will aim to look at what the right steps are.

Not all situations will be approached the same way, but there are certain fundamental stepping points and psychological basics that should be followed independently of the case, because they apply to any healthy and loving relationships. Following the right plan and having the right mentality will bring you way closer to where you want to be.

These 3 points will make it easier to follow your path.

1) Don't act, sound or appear needy, desperate or out of control to your ex. This is a sure way to make him run for the hills and to only confirm his decision to break up with you. You will keep in the clear if you stop reasoning with him, calling him multiple times a day or begging him to come back, because all of those show that you are desperate and needy and will not attract him back in any way. In fact men (and women too) have an almost built in rejection apparatus, when they sense neediness and desperation.

2) To support your efforts in step 1) the next thing on your way to getting your ex boyfriend back is to actually stop contacting him at all for few weeks in a row. The timeframe that is known to work best here is about one month. It's not going to appear easy, but you will get way ahead in the process of getting him back quicker. He will begin to miss you and increasingly wonder about you, which is what you want. You will also show him that you are a strong person and are taking your life in your own hands (very attractive to a man).

Such a break period is of use for both of you. He will get more time to miss you and reevaluate the relationship and you will get more time to work on yourself and actually take care of yourself. It's important to be able to see things from the distance and pick ourself up, it's the right way to go.

Get out with friends and get their emotional support when you need it. Give your ex signals that you can cope with your life even without him, this will take pressure off his shoulders.

3) You need to be honest with yourself and search for the real reason for your breakup and then do something about it. There is a particular underlying reason for your breakup although you might not instantly see it. Well, find it!

If he broke up with you there is a good chance that something on your side needs change, so be honest with it and be prepared to really change it. Needless to say that going back to the same relationship without taking a different attitude is not going to work long term.

I am suspecting that going through one whole month without contacting your ex will not be a "piece of cake" for you. It never is... However, once you have managed, you will be in a much better position to do anything from here, and now is also the time to contact your ex boyfriend again and show him that you did not let yourself "go down".

Talk to him very casually and with a positive and bright attitude (this equals to attraction). Don't mention anything about the relationship at this first meeting/call, but give as a reason some positive development that you recently experienced, that you wanted to share with him soon. Follow your plan and be wary of falling back into needy or panicky behavior.

This is not a complete reference manual for all aspects under the sun for getting your ex boyfriend back, but you will be way ahead in the game if you follow at least some of them.