Well, I'm here to tell you that not only can you take on the Alpha Males and win, but by following the five tips below you can learn to become one.

Look Your Best

You can't expect to stay trim and toned if you spend every evening slobbing in front of the TV. If you're not happy with your appearance, get some exercise. Most gyms offer personalized training programs or if you want something less structured take your friends to the park and kick about a soccer ball.

Realize that what suited you as a teenager may not suit you now. If your hairstyle hasn't changed in twenty years, visit the best hairdresser you can afford and get yourself an upgrade. Similarly, if your clothes are drab and shapeless visit a personal shopper (many stores offer free services these days) and discover which styles and colors suit you best.

Pursue Your Goals

Alpha Males may appear to have success fall in their laps but in fact most of them work very hard to achieve their goals. But simply studying and schmoozing is not enough to guarantee success. You have to believe you deserve it.

If your inner voice is overly critical, practice disagreeing with it. If it tells you you're not special enough, remind it you're just as good as the next guy. If it claims you'll never get the promotion, tell it that somebody has to and there's no good reason why it shouldn't be you. Then go for it!

Have a Life

Alpha Male status may seem like a great way to get the girls, but the real men know there's more to life than work and a string of one night stands.

If you're lacking in hobbies and interests it's time to start cultivating some. Life should be fun so get out there and enjoy yourself. Not only will this give you something to talk to women about, but if you have something exciting to do with your weekends suddenly your Friday night attempts to pull will lose a lot of their unpleasant urgency.

Act Confident

Part of an Alpha Male's charm is his laid back confidence. And the good news is it can easily be faked.

To appear calm, masculine and totally at ease, stand with your shoulders back, don't jiggle or fiddle and keep a steady gaze. Adopt a relaxed pose by leaning backwards or against something and listen intently to what is being said.

When speaking, keep your voice low and calm and don't be drawn into conversations about anything you don't understand.

Respect Women

Forget the looks and the success, the real reason most men are jealous of Alpha Males is their success with women. And the secret behind it is that they treat women well.

Even if all you're after is a one night stand, show the girl respect by listening to what she's saying, showing impeccable manners and never putting her under pressure to do anything she isn't ready for. If you intend to see her again, phone when you say will and consider sending flowers.

What Alpha Males realize and many other men don't is that most women don't demand amazing looks or a fantastic job, most women just want to be treated like a lady.