Reason for this is that this will put you in a mindset that stops you from thinking or doing silly things, which causes you to come across as being too desperate and seeking for approval.



Put another way, any relationship, whether between a man or woman or even a business relation for that matter, will have the best chance of flourishing only if all parties respect themselves, and not appear too needy.

Having said that, some or my subscribers feel that being something they are not, is being untrue their nature. So "pretending" to be suave or be some sort of casanova is not what they are comfortable with.

The truth is, we don't have to be a James Bond to produce the right vibes in others. A plain looking joe can incorporate the correct charming behavior in his speech, body actions, eye contact and through practice, allow these actions to be a natural part of him.

Put in another perspective, if not paying attention when a lady is sharing her thoughts, being unprepared for a date, being too slack in ones dressing is what one deems as normal behavior, then perhaps a paradigm shift in the way one thinks is in order..

After all, if a man can't take care of himself, how can he take care of a beautiful woman?

So in essence, a man must be sure of himself and this comes from preparation, and shaping our mind to think in a certain way.

Tip #1- Have no expectations or preconceived notions

Some guys have the notion that so long as a girl goes out with them, she is interested in him. This could not be farther from the truth. Girls would go out with you simply to have a good time and get to know you, that's it. Don't think too deeply into it, because if you do and you start to give a lot in terms of time and money, you will feel short changed when the thoughts and feelings you conjured up are not reciprocated.

Don't forget, she could be looking around, so there is no obligation for you to give away the entire farm for someone who is not even your girlfriend.

Tip #2- Your time is precious too

That's right your time is important. The value you give yourself is the same value people will place on you. When you give something away too freely, it will not be appreciated simply because no one paid for your time. Charge $500 for 1 hour consultation, and you'll find how valuable your time is to those who pay for it.

Tip #3- Always know what's going to happen next

Be prepared for a date, the same way you would take care for a friend from overseas. So if the experience was pleasurable for the lady, she would most surely be interested to go out with you again.

Again, although you're planning a date to provide a nice experience for your lady friend, it does not mean that you're going to appear needy. Rather, these actions stem from a part of you which is a nature of excellence and caring enough to let someone have a good time.

The motive behind the action is the defining criteria. And she knows the difference.

Tip #4- Have fun and flirt by responding

Bring her to a place where she can unleash her flirty nature. If she's a good girl, she would probably be shy, and don't want to feel embarrassed or look desperate by making the 1st move to have physical contact. So its important for the man, to initiate opportunities for some light skin contact.

Light skin contact can mean taking a photo together with your arms around her, or you reading up on some basic palmistry and offer to "study" her palms, which would of course require you to feel her hands. It's nothing hardcore, just light casual contact, enough to get the blood pumping, increase the heart rate and bridge the air gap between you and her.

Of course to do this, you'll need to put yourself and her in an environment where natural fun and flirty moments are asking to happen. It could be while you're having a chat in a quiet botanic garden, or a scenic view in your car near the beach, where quality one on one conversations can develop into light physical contact.