Nope, we are not about to point accusatory fingers here. But somewhere along the way, you find yourself in splits-ville and now you are racking your brains on how to get your girl back. First of all, before you let your moves fly, let her (and yourself) cool off some steam. The last thing you would need right now is a head-on confrontation where both of you are not listening. You may only exchange more hurtful words and cause irreparable damage - and that is not the best way on how to get your girl back.

Let a week pass, or may more... but during that time, make sure she sees or knows that you are affected with the situation (even if you are not.) Don't let your girl catch you partying (and with another girl too!) so soon after you both hit the brakes. That is a definite no-no. Getting back with your girl can become a very complicated process, but showing that the breakup affected you (or to be more precise: acting like you do have remorse over the situation) is one way of paving a smoother path for yourself. Try also not to get affected when she tries to make you jealous by going out with other men. Just keep you cool for now.

Here are is one great example on how to get your girl back, without all that machismo nonsense that she needs to get so jealous that she has to come crawling back to you. (Hint: girls do not want to crawl back, but you do.)

Hold your tongue. The last thing you would need is a blow-by-blow, seven page litany from your girl as to why things are not working out between the two of you. Pointing out to each other's faults is not a great way to start the mending process.

How to get your girl back 101: never confront her with a "let's talk" demand; but at the same time, never give in to her demand as well. A silent wall between the two of you could actually help her sort out her emotions, so give yourselves the personal spaces you need.

If you feel like the time has come when you should make your move, approach her someplace private. But make sure she does not feel threatened or cornered in an uncomfortable situation. Make her feel that she has some control to the outcome of the "talk." And wait for her to initiate the talks. If she doesn't on the first try, she will eventually.

When Eddie's girl of 3 years walked out the door, he let her have ample time to think things through. Since she liked going alone to the park every Saturday, he "visited" her there a month later. Here, you notice that Eddie's choice is a wise one, since his girlfriend's choice of location shows that they can be alone, but that she has the liberty to walk away when she wants to. It also implies that he still keeps up with her schedules.

(Naturally,) Eddie's ex tried to shoo him away, but our man just said very simply, that he misses her, and that if possible... if she doesn't mind... he won't be a bother... to just sit there quietly with her. For a long while, they just sat there, not really talking (or even looking at each other.) And when it was time to go home, he asked her if he could walk her back to her place. She said okay.

This is actually a very good way on how to get your girl back - no drama, no expenses, and no need to bring in the hurts from the past.

For future reference: if you feel like this girl is worth everything you are going through, try this for change. Always agree that she is right - even when she is not! This will save you from all the headaches afterwards.