Your own happiness will always reflect your life and that includes your relationships. If you are naturally and truly happy with yourself you will attract success much easier, that goes for your personal life and your business life too. It is one of life irrefutable facts, when you are not truly happy in yourself no one, absolutely no one can give you happiness. You can't fake it, you cannot buy it and you can't take part of your partner's happiness and make it your own. If you are out of sorts with yourself, those feelings will always come home to roost, sooner or later.



It is a tough lesson to learn, as I found out many years ago. When my marriage came to an end I began to realise for the first time in my life that I had been kidding myself. I used to think that a good relationship would create happiness in my life. Nothing could be further from the truth.Actually, it is the other way round. Happiness is a state you have to acquire first, if you intend to have fulfilling, harmonious and lasting relationships.

The reason for this is pretty obvious once you understand the principles at play.

Apart from environmental factors, which have an impact on your well being and also your happiness levels, career and relationships, by far the biggest factor for your true happiness is how you feel about yourself. In other words, if you are basically happy with yourself and life in general, odds are that you will bring this state to all your relationships.

Easier said than done, I know, because acquiring the ability to be truly happy means that you have to be willing to take responsibility for all your actions and be prepared to practice self acceptance. Both concepts are alien to most of us. We simply do not like the idea of taking responsibility, let alone accept our lot. So used are we to moan and blame and whine.

Of course, none of these behaviours get us any closer to our goal, namely to feel good about ourselves and to have satisfying relationships. Ask yourself this question: Do you really want to spend time with someone who is moaning all the time? The answer probably is a resounding no. After all life is difficult enough as it is. We all know that, and we also know that there is not much we as individuals can do to change world politics or turn the economy round, right? Well, actually, wrong.

I am going to give you the simple key now to unlock true happiness and it really is as simple as this: Learn to accept that there is good bad and indifferent in this world and simply allow this to be okay. There are things you can change and there are things you cannot change. Your job is to know the difference and act accordingly.

You can always better yourself. You have the choice to work on your attitudes, improve your mind, read that inspiring book and learn a new skill, or do something nice for someone else. These actions will raise you personal vibrational energy. Energy radiates out. Good vibrational energy acts like a magnet and will affect those around you. This kind of personal magnetism will draw good fortunes to you. Some also like to call it the law of attraction.

Your personal magnetism comes from deep within you. You should make it your daily practice to do things that raise your personal magnetism. A wise man once said. If you radiate true love you will always have many customers. Practicing the art of happiness and acceptance are the precursors of true love. Just remember this: You do everything in your life to achieve happiness. There simply is no other reason for any of your actions. Whatever it is that you do in your life, the end goal always will be to create a higher level of happiness for yourself. If you recognise this and work towards that goal and learn to become calmer and more accepting you will find that you literally close the gap between your desires and yourself.

As your personal magnetism increases you draw the relationships, events and circumstances of your innermost desires to you.

It has never been more important than in our challenging times to practise those simple principles. Believe me, they will stand you in good stead with your relationships. And we all know that harmonious relationships lead to prosperous abundance in all areas of our lives. No man is an island and you want to draw has many happy people into your circle as possible. This is true power, so lead by example.