Stay-at-home moms are no longer just the co-stars from Leave It To Beaver, the Brady Bunch, and other television shows from a bygone era. Taking care of the kids has become the cool thing to do again for women in their 20s and 30s. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, there are at least 5.4 million stay-at-home parents in the United States alone. These are a dynamic bunch of women, and men, who see opportunities in their domestic role, especially the opportunities presented by the Internet.
Sure, many of these parents gave up exciting careers and important roles in their community to take up the time-honored tradition of rearing their children. You yourself may have put goals and dreams on the back burner when you accepted the commitment and responsibility of raising your little ones. You understand the importance of a parent being there for those firsts: the first crawl, the first step, the first “momma" and “dadda."
At the same time, though, you may feel like you have taken on too much. Not only do you have the pressures of bringing up a smart, well-behaved child. You worry about being able to make ends meet to provide everything your child needs.
If this sounds all too familiar, take a deep breath, turn off the television, and log online. No, don’t think you’re going to surf the Web to just pass the time. The Internet is your portal to transforming your stay-at-home life. In between the diaper changes and feedings, bedtimes and burpings, you can reach beyond the walls of your home and access the outside world as never before. The benefits are as close to limitless as the millions of sites on the Web, including:
•E-support system. Whether you’re searching for other stay-at-home moms to lean on, folks with the same health ailment as yourself, or even just other Oprah fanatics, the Internet is like one big community center where you can find them.
•Friends and fun. Through e-mail, chat rooms, and instant messaging, the Internet is one of the easiest ways to keep in touch with old friends and family members, as well as to meet new acquaintances.
•Cyber community. Look for your neighborhood’s Web site for information on shopping, festivals, town hall meetings, and other local interests. If you can’t find your town’s home on the Internet, take a leadership role in creating it with the help of your neighbors.
•Cap and gown. Many community colleges and universities offer e-courses. You never need to step foot on the campus to earn degrees in finance, English, accounting, or whatever else suit your fancy.
•Steals and deals. If you’re looking for some of the biggest discounts and best selection for anything from electronics to groceries, books to automobiles, the Web is your marketplace.
•Cash flow. The Internet can work for you, as well, if you are on the other end of the cash register. The Web provides an unparalleled avenue to sell goods. It can link you to interested buyers if you’re only looking to unload a few knickknacks to unclutter your home. If you have enough stuff to open a garage sale, you can do that, too, without time or space constraints. Or try your hand at a full-time online business if you get bit by the entrepreneurial bug.
The Internet can open up the outside world to you for all of these benefits, but you need the right set of keys to open the door. Your first “key" is the type of Internet access you use. You’ll need to weigh your budget versus how fast you want to navigate on the Web. Cable and DSL hook ups provide zippy access but can cut into your profit margins. Dial up, on the other, can be cheap or even free, but can slow down your productivity.
Once you have your hook up established, you’ll need to get your feet wet before you do heavy surfing. Find trusted sites for your activities. Look for certified schools to take courses at and secure shopping zones to purchase at. When selling or starting your own business, do your research to find the most trusted and thrifty auction and classified sites. The right classified sites can be like your neighborhood paper, except they reach millions of people around the globe. In many cases, the best classified sites will also charge no start up or transaction fees and offer safe ways to communicate and do business with clients.
Settle these basics, and you can be virtually ensured to become a true M.O.M, a master of multitasking. In the time it takes your child to take a nap or watch an episode of Blues Clues, you will be able to earn 4 more credits to your finance degree, buy a new mp3 player, and sell a closet’s worth of stuff.
How To Stay At Home Mom
There have been a variety of reports through the years on how much a stay at home mom's work is worth. I don't pay too much attention to those because, frankly, moms who work outside the home do much of the same work. How much of it they do may vary, especially if the kids are in daycare. But any good parent works very hard for their family.
What matters to me most is how much I value being a stay at home mom.
This is something that will be different for every family. For mine, it's a blessing that I can work from home, being there for my kids as I earn an income. Without that, I'd have to work outside the home. My husband and I early on decided that one of us should be a stay at home parent whenever financially possible.
For others, it is much a matter of tradition. They have the image of the mother as the one who stays at home and cares for home and family.
It's also easier for some families than for others. One picture some people have of stay at home moms is that they sit around all day, watching television, perhaps even ignoring her kids in favor of a favorite show or three. That's not often the case, but the image persists.
And of course, many figure that stay at home moms have husbands who earn enough to make it easy. That the SAHM is perhaps lazy and doesn't care to make the most of her education.
You have to value being a stay at home mom beyond all the negative stereotypes. You have to value your time with your family so much that you make the financial sacrifices, the sacrifices of your time and even of career. Because it's not so easy to jump back into a career in many cases.
There can be an insecurity to being a stay at home mom. There's a reason why so many say they are "just" a stay at home mom. Even as they feel it is the best choice for their family, there's a sense that others won't see it, won't value it.
Where do you find that value?
The value is in knowing what your children are doing, learning and experiencing. In being able to help out more easily in and out of school. In having an easier time helping your kids to explore their interests.
Certainly a working mother can do all that. It's much, much harder, but not impossible. I just have to look back at how my own mother raised 4 of us on her own to know that.
The security in knowing that the environment your child is being raised in is exactly what you choose to make it is a true delight. You aren't sacrificing much of your income to pay for daycare... or perhaps you're sacrificing all of it, since as a stay at home mom you are the daycare, and you aren't getting paid for it. The hug and kisses make great bonuses, though.
No matter how hard being a stay at home mom gets, you can hold your head up high, knowing that you're putting forth the effort to be a wonderful parent. The more you value your own efforts, the more your family will value you.
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