Really think about your feelings for the special person in your life. Set aside time to write down some thoughts for your wedding vows. A wedding vow is a promise that a couple will make towards one another and not just hollow words that they will choose to live by. They are your honest emotions that you wish to share with your loved one. So how does one simply start? It can be a daunting task that you will not want to take lightly.



1. After you have made the decision to create your own vows instead of using something standard, find some quiet time for yourself where you can feel comfortable. You will want to imagine how your life will play out even in sadness or sickness as with happiness and laughter. Even when you have arguments, that you will both be willing to compromise and work through your troubles.

2. Talk with people you feel comfortable with whom you respect their views on life, love and relationships. Be it your parents, friends or spiritual leader. Some religions may not allow for altering of wedding vows and traditions, so you should research that beforehand.

3. Don't be afraid to be romantic and use poetry, the English language can be used beautifully and you should try your hand at it. Otherwise, don't be shy about finding guidance from great writers and poets that you can look up online. If you feel you just can't do it right and feel awkward and false, then keep it simple and try to make what you do write the most powerful statements as you can.

4. Once you have written the vows, you can go back to the people you spoke to whose opinions you respect and perhaps they can give you some good advice on what may or may not need to be changed for tweaked.

5. Don't be afraid to speak truthfully and be yourself. This person knows who you are and being yourself is what got you to this point, so share that with them. Also after it is written, give yourself sometime to dwell on it. Make sure it is everything you want to say, most times the first thing you have written will be great, but there is always room for finessing and fine tuning.

6. Say your vows, remember them if you can. You will want it to be from the heart and not something that you are only reading off a piece of paper. You will want to look into your partner's eyes if you can and not down at your note. Having your vows in hand is okay just in case you get nervous and lose your place, but it can be more powerful if it feels like they are words that you are saying from your heart.

7. Lastly, keep it under two paragraphs and don't write and say something you don't mean, borrowing language to help you express yourself more eloquently is one thing, but don't be dishonest with your meaning.