I have a female friend. When a guy would ask her out on a date for dinner, she would tell him that sounded good, but he needed to know that she wouldn't have sex because of a date. If he were interested in her for more than sex, then he would continue to pursue her. If he wanted more, than she would not hear from him again.



Most people have their shares of men who wanted something for something. Even at work, she became friendly with a boss who soon was telling her that she could go very far with the job, and then he showed up at her apartment door. She talked to him, at the door, but did not let him come in. He became very hard nosed toward her after that but he still did not get to first base. She did eventually transfer out of that position so She didn't have to be subjected to him and his "come-ons

Of course men want to have sex whenever and wherever they can, but that does not mean that the woman has to agree. Different sizes or shapes of women don't make a man more or less ready, willing and eager to have sex. Whether you are shapely or not, your body type and personality attracts certain kinds of guys. If you have already set the game rules, then you shouldn't need to worry about the man trying to get his share of your desserts after dinner and a movie.

Some, not most, men prefer to have a lady on their arm in public and a "pro" in their bed. As far as casual sex goes, women still make those decisions. It is unfortunate that some women play games and act like teases, but only the inexperienced man will fall for that kind of game playing. Same is true for a woman going out to dinner and not knowing what to do afterwards if the man expects pay back. A simple goodnight kiss and saying that it was fun should be enough.

My belief is that intimacy is just as important as sex. In the long run, it really has nothing to do with being over-sexed or under-sexed, just that men and women have different needs. Questions about mechanical versus natural intercourse can be answered by saying that release is just that, a release. A man wants the release (and doesn't much care how he gets it) whereas a woman wants to feel "loved", cuddled, embraced, felt needed and desirous.

Most women that will talk about their relationship will admit that their interpretation of sex centers on a man's ability to be intimate and loving in bed. They readily admit to having sex many of the times that a man initiates it, but they enjoy it to the fullest when the man has paid attention to her needs of cuddling and talking before hand.

In Gentlemen and Dating part 2, we explore some of the things that make men and women different when it comes to their sex drive.