The problem is the ring he got me. It just isn't what I had pictured when I imagined what my ring would look like when someone asked to marry me. And I don't think anyone in their right mind would want what I have as far as a ring goes. I won't go into details about the ring itself but basically it's as though he didn't put much thought into what I wanted, even though I told him a few specific things that I would just not live without, and he went ahead did as he pleased. He told me that he would get me a new one when he got back into the states during this mid-tour leave (he is currently deployed in Iraq). Now he tells me he won't. Am I out of line? Would you be happy with a ring from Wal-Mart worth $90? I have made it perfectly clear that I really do appreciate what the ring symbolizes and that I love him regardless.

There are a lot of girls who would love even a piece of tin foil if it symbolized their fiance's love. Do you think that maybe he was rushed because he wanted you to have a ring before he left for Iraq? Do you think that offending his choice could be the reason that he changed his mind about getting you another one? Do you also think that as far away as he is that the last thing he wants to get from you is a letter further insulting his choice? You say you made it clear that you "appreciate what the ring symbolizes", but do you really? To end on a positive note, perhaps once things have cooled off you will see your ring in a new light, or at least you can find another way to explain your feelings about the ring which don't offend or insult. Or, you will realize that a ring is not the end all of a marriage.

Not all men look at rings for what they are worth, or how big they could be. Maybe he thought you wouldn't care. Maybe he thought that since he was going to be spending the rest of his life with you, that no matter what ring he bought you, you would love it, just as much as you love him. Do you honestly know what that word means? If you are letting something as simple as your engagement ring ruffle your feathers.

My friend's husband just went to basic training, she gets to talk to him 10 minutes a week. She waits by that phone until it rings to hear his voice because she misses him so much. And here you are arguing with him over the phone about your ring when he is that far away?

Yes,I would be VERY happy with a $90 ring from Wal-mart. My e-ring cost $115 from Kay's, and I love every single last bit of it, and my FH loves me even more knowing so.