Though straying from those unique traits that make you a special person is not the ideal way to present the best sides of yourself, it is important to recognize that certain qualities take time to appreciate. Though the most common complaints men express about dating women may not apply to you directly, understanding which traits are considered the most undesirable by men may provide you with some insight into the complex nature of relationships.

Understanding the difference between complaints a man might have about a woman, versus a complaint he might have about a relationship in general, is important. Some men are simply not cut out for any kind of long term relationship, but feel it necessary to force themselves to stay in one because of social expectations. In these kinds of cases it would often be unproductive to pay much attention to the complaints a man might have about his partner simply because the entire relationship is faulty.

Keeping all of these ideas in mind it is still of great use to know what men are generally thinking when it comes to women and what drives them up the wall. When a woman has access to such information she may choose to tone down or key up any traits that might fit the profile depending upon the result she hopes to invoke from the men in her life.

This trick can be useful for both attracting and repulsing men, which most women can attest the uses of, depending upon the situation. Though men are also unique creatures with their own individual likes and dislikes, many tend to lean in the direction of putting these traits on their top pet peeve list:

?Very Loud: Most men do not find loud women attractive sexually, though they may find them excellent social companions, the booming voice often detracts from the typical perception of femininity.

?Vulgarity: Though the idea may be outdated in many social circles, not too long ago it was nearly unheard of for a proper lady to swear or use very vulgar language. Some of this idea still remains today and many men find it a turn off if a woman swears a great deal or is extremely crass in conversation.

?Challenging the Male Role: In this and age it can be difficult not to step on the classic male role being that gender rules have been all but destroyed. Though you should never have to dumb yourself down, or play it weak, purposely bruising the male ego through his more classic roles won't often inspire romance. This is not to say that strong women are not appreciated by many men; this applies to women who seek to humiliate men by proving that they are not just strong, but stronger than the man.

?Absence of the Feminine: In today's world it can be a challenge to keep up with the daily grind and still look like the classic beauty, however many men still look to the women in their life for a definition of beauty. A particularly sexless style of clothing or haircut may turn off a great many men if worn during your social time together as it not only makes role definition unclear, but it may also indicate that you feel no physical attraction.

?Codependent or Depressive Speech: Many women use pity as a lure when trying to get men to pay attention to them. While some men may feel it is their gentlemanly obligation to help a damsel in distress, most men do not find the helpless woman to be a turn on in this day and age. Likewise, constantly morbid or depressive speech drags down a man's romantic side like concrete, stay away from conversations that revolve around such topics as your demise or anything related to it.

?Menstrual Cycle Manners: Ladies, it's sad but true, many men are terrified of this subject. Talking about pads, tampons, cramps, bloating or any other issue related to that time of the month, is a sure-fire seduction don't!

?Bossy Lady: A great many women head out into the singles world looking for matchmaking that will lead them to a man they can boss around for the rest of their lives. Though a great many men will put up with this kind of their behavior from their sweethearts, most of them detest bossy women and certainly do not find it attractive. These gents have already had mothers; most of them aren't looking for a replacement.

?Premature Emotional Attachment: It is the belief of many women that with the right amount of attraction a man will fall in love. This is sometimes true, but in many cases it takes a great deal more than just a physical spark to ignite the heart strings. Mixing up love and lust in the beginning of a relationship can push some men away, especially if it comes across as too desperate or eager to enter into a relationship.

?My Space: Though you may get a drawer in the bedroom and a shelf on the bathroom rack this is not always an initiation to take over a man's living space. Intruding upon a guy's living area can mean a quick end to a relationship as it often comes across as too clingy if pushed too soon in the relationship. This may apply to large decorations in the home, or the skin on his mobile phone; in any case too pushy is often pushed out.

?Friends and Enemies: Whether or not you like his friends it is likely you will have to accept the majority of them, at least in the early stages of your relationship. Though this can be a trial as many men tend to act more immature with their male friends, you must remain patient and be understanding of those aspects of his life which make him happy. Don't be afraid to make some requests, but demands made in the friends area sends up very large, red flags in the male world.

Hopefully after reading these common complaints you will have a little more information about those traits which make it difficult for men to get along with women, even when they love them. It's important to remember that in all successful relationships communication and compromise are a key element; make use of them and other tips while still being true to yourself for your best chance of being in a successful relationship.