There are negatives and positive to the idea of putting your life in someone else's hands, as there negatives and positives in everything else in this world. The answer, as usual lies in getting the right balance out of the situation. This article will deal with the negatives of the situation, because there is much to lose if you let the wrong person run your life for you.



Many of us only feel successful when someone else measures and acknowledges our success. It is evident that we as humans live in a society and need acceptance in it. It is however unhealthy to be completely dependent on other people's feedback to judge your own level of success or of failure as well.

We sometimes do not have the time to notice other people's success, and it is the same the other way round as well. Just because someone does not give you a slap on the back every time you do something wrong, do not fret over it. Instead, give your own self the thumbs up and keep doing it right!

Somebody has rightly said that misery does love company. It is unhealthy to have relationships even very short ones, on the basis that both people in concern have had failures.

People sometimes love cribbing about their past, and two such people often create an unhealthy relationship of encouraging each other to curse the life they have lived. Avoid such people at all times. There are still others who seem to have the only objective of making themselves look and feel superior by putting other people down. Take no heed of such people as well. They generally have a low self image themselves, and that is why they fear letting anyone else look good.

When it is time for you to judge someone, maybe a relative or your own child, make every effort to lose your biases. Just because someone failed the last time does not mean they fail every time. Rather than destroy the person's self image, encourage them to do better the next time, and use kind and firm words to do so.

You can shape your child's future personality into a healthy one by doing so. Judging someone is a huge responsibility, and one that requires great care in undertaking. Do not be hasty in your judgments, and always try and sound encouraging. Constructive criticism on the other hand, is a whole new ball game, and that is what you should accept in your life, as well as aim to give those around you.