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Senior Year Part 1

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Anyone who comes from a broken family understands the pain of divorce. I was twenty-seven years old when my parents divorced. While some people think that a person shouldn't be "affected" by such things once they are adults, I can assure you--I WAS! I was shocked when my parents divorced, and I had no forewarning of this event.



On the day that my dad told my mom that he was moving out, I felt a great anxiety in my spirit, so great, in fact, that I told my husband, "Something is terribly wrong in California. I want to phone home." Considering the fact that I was three thousand miles away on a remote island in Northern Canada when I felt this anxiety, you can appreciate that I was deeply affected.

Pain and Confusion Ensue

Pain and confusion became constant companions as I tried to "understand" what had happened: What right did he have to leave my mother? Whose standard was he using to exercise his right to leave her? What had she done that was so terrible that he could not live with her? I had questions and I asked them of nearly everyone around me. I asked God the same questions, and in so doing, I realized that my own life was in quite a mess. I searched the Bible for "the answer" to all my questions about my dad. Since he had been a Baptist minister at one time, I felt certain that he would know and obey what the Bible said about such an important issue.

About two years after the divorce, the whole family gathered in California for one of those BIG attempts to bring reconciliation. I felt certain that dad would listen to God's Word, so I reached for my Bible and said, "Dad, look at what God has to say about what you are doing."

Before I could find the carefully selected passage of scripture that would straighten this mess out, he stood up and loudly cursed me, the Bible and the whole family. Then he walked out. Needless to say we were all in shock. The shock of that cursing lasted a long time--eighteen years for myself, and twenty years for my brother and sister.

Difficulty in Letting Go

Eighteen years is a long time. Think about it. It generally takes eighteen years to graduate from high school. A whole "lifetime" of events takes place in eighteen years. During those years, contact with my dad was minimal. A card from him on my birthday, Christmas cards, the odd phone call which always stirred up the pain. Someone would hear about something he was doing and he would again become the topic of our conversation for weeks. My mother never stopped talking about him. She never let him go.

My mom maintained her relationship with God throughout this long painful separation. She read her Bible, went to church, cared about us kids and loved her grandkids. She worked as a secretary and saved her money so she wouldn't be a burden on anyone when she retired. But, always, she was obsessed with talking about my dad.

I would say that most of our conversations about him were judgmental. After all, we read our Bibles; we knew what he had done was wrong. She had done nothing that the Bible sanctioned as reason for divorce. By the time of his third marriage, we knew he wasn't coming back to her. Still, his actions and their effect on our lives were frequent topics of our conversations.

After many years, I gave up hope for my dad to ever be reconciled to his family. I doubted he was even a Christian. I felt he was a totally lost, immoral, unstable, unsavory person. That was a very dark time for me. Gradually, I got used to the darkness in my own soul--it seemed normal.

A Death Sentence

Mother did retire and she moved from California to Canada to be near my family. She had missed out on much of the growing up of my five children, and she wanted to get to know them. She bought a condominium two blocks from my house and the kids enjoyed having "Gran" live so close. One year after moving here, she was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's disease.

Lou Gehrig's disease was a death sentence. There was no cure. There was no treatment. I spent four months praying and asking God to heal my mother. Finally, the answer came: "Help her die." I accepted her diagnosis and did all I could to help her.

I wish I could tell you that I was a "good little Christian" who praised and thanked God every day for His righteous judgments, but the truth is that I questioned God. I really felt that it was unfair of Him to let my dad go free when he was the one who had done this great wrong to his family, and to allow my mother to die this cruel death. Finally, I asked God, "How do You see this situation?" The answer He spoke to my heart would one day transform all our lives.

About a year after my mother died, I felt something stirring inside of me--a desire to see my dad. In the long eighteen years of separation, I had only invited him once to visit my home. During that visit I had tried again--and unsuccessfully, again--to confront him with the Bible. I had no reason to expect that another visit would end differently, but I honored that desire regardless and invited him for a long weekend.

Copyright (c) 2008 Rebecca Hanson
Senior Year Part 1
Though the characters in this moc-umentary are indeed fictional the techniques are not. These are the same strategies that successful independent performers, artists and bands use day in and day out to profit from their passion for music.

During the course of this short moc-umentary you'll observe how this cast of five characters arrange their music businesses to arrive at their target of a six-figure-income. So lets start the camera rolling on act one of this story. We'll begin with our first independent artists named Gidget, a solo artist with only one business strategy: get more gigs.

Giddy Gidget Gigging Gladly

[Scene One, Act One] Camera opens on one Giddy Gidget, a Folk Artist from Berkeley California…

Gidget is a busy bee. She loves being in front of people and is sold on the idea of performing as the main source of her income. Gidget is always on the look out for new gigs that put her in front of more and more new faces.

At the beginning of last year Gidget made a new-years resolution of booking herself into three gigs per week – no more, no less. Unlike her other resolution [to stop eating Twinkies dipped in Jif peanut butter] Gidget has actually stuck to, and accomplished this goal.

Since Gidget's music style and stage presence consistently attract java-thirsty crowds to her gigs, she was able to negotiate a meager $2.50 split of the door for each of her gigs. The managers all conceded with out much fuss because they knew that they made far more than that due to Gidget's lyrics about social injustice and her croonings about the joys of caffeinated beverages.

Now Gidget is a fairly consistent lady, and so are her audience sizes, which always seem to number exactly 200 people per gig (no more, no less).

If you are keeping tabs on the math then you are already adding the audience size of 200 people to her $2.50 per-person split and realizing that each of her gigs nets her $500 dollars – also exactly no more, no less. In order for Gidget to make $100,000 per year, she realizes that she cannot (I repeat, cannot) get any better at booking gigs or ask for a higher split of the door. Seeing as how Gidget doesn't have a whole lot of ambition this seems just fine to her, plus it works well for our illustration.

So the end of one year Gidget sits down with a pack of Twinkies and a jar of Jif peanut butter and tallies up the take from her gigs. Before she reaches the inevitable sugar high she discovers that she has realized a gross profit of $78,000 per year from just three gigs a week!

Again if you are keeping track you will have no doubt figured this out by multiplying her $2.50 per person split by 200 people at each gig, for three gigs a week. Your math would certainly come up with $1,500 per week in income from gigs. Of course that multiplied by 52 weeks equals $78,000.

When Gidget first saw this number she became a little depressed because she didn't see her goal of six figures in the display of her calculator. But after a little more Jif covered Twinkie delight, she suddenly had a recollection. She remembered that she did have some other income from the sale of her products. [To be truthful she actually has only one product – a CD called “Chimes They Are A Tangeing” – which is her homage to the social revolution of the Sixties].

Now for a quick insight into Gidget's personality – though she is indeed very outgoing and very consistent at booking gigs, she is not very business minded. Because of this she never got around to developing more products to sell, nor did she ever really take the time to learn or implement any promotional or marketing strategies. Consequently she convinced only 7.5% of her audience (15 people per gig) to buy her one-and-only CD. She sells her 14 song, Hippy-Nouveau, collection for a reasonable price of $12. The CD costs – including recording and duplication expenses – are $2.50 per CD, which leaves her $9.50 in profit per CD.

Rushing back to her trusty ten-key adding machine with adrenaline now added to the sugar coursing through her veins, Gidget begins the jittery process of counting up her profits. To figure out the yearly total of her CD sales she quickly multiplies the number of weekly sales [45 sales per week] by her per CD profit of $9.50 each, which brings her to $427.50 per week in pure profit.

Now to figure out the yearly net income she squints her eyes tightly to focus through the sugar induced brain fog as she to tries to remember how many weeks there are in a year. In an epiphany she recalls that there are 52 weeks in a year. She quickly types “52” into her adding machine hits the “times” key to multiply the total number of weeks in the year by her profit [$427.50 x 52 weeks] which brings Gidget to $22,230 in additional income.

In a mad rush of excitement Gidget pours herself a quick cup of coffee to add caffeine to the adrenaline and sugar high, and begins to nervously complete the calculations of her gig crazy profits. This is what she arrives at – $78,000 from gigging added to the $22,230 from CD sales. Fingers now shaking she presses the equal button and squints once more at the display, which presently shows a grand total $100,230.00 for the year.

[Close of Scene One] As the camera fades to black we see Gidget jumping ecstatically over meeting her goal. She celebrates with more java, Jif and Twinkies.

Editor's Note: Last we heard Gidget is doing well, she has given up the Twinkies and peanut butter all together and has plans to record a new CD this year called “Sugar Coated Java Beans.”

As you can see that though Gidget's business strategy is very lopsided, it is well within the realm of reality to book 3 gigs per week. Anyone who has the ability to grasp some simple booking tools and techniques should be able to do this as a minimum. Plus with only minor increases in crowd sizes, or by adding more products and even some marketing you could fair even more profitably than Gidget did.

Join us for the next time during the continuation of our little moc-umentary when we introduce you to a guy named Fast Freddy who is all about working with his Fanatical Fans to bring him the lions share of his $100,000 income.
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