“If she tilts her head to the side and strokes her neck with the back of her fingers, then it's a sign that she's interested.”



“If she licks her lips slowly, as if longing for you, then that means she's interested.”

“If she laughs a lot and looks you in the eye, then she's really into you.”

These signs are all well and fine, but there's just one big problem. Women generally exhibit these signs of great interest maybe in one out of every 1,000 times they talk to a man. What's more, these don't say a thing about how to elicit these kinds of responses from a woman.

Suppose you walk into a bar with friends, and then you start looking for attractive women to talk to. What are the chances that you'll see one tilt their head, stroke their neck, or lick their lips in your direction? Of course. Zero. These women don't even know you yet. So do most attractive women you meet in life.

So what do most men do in this situation? They either (1) do nothing, because they're afraid they might scare her away, or (2) they do something typical, like asking her to dance or buying her a drink.

Either way, the approach almost never works. After a drink or a dance, she says thanks and goes her way. Why? Because you can't choose to make women attracted to you. Attraction isn't a choice. And if you do what every single guy before you did to her, she definitely won't feel it for you.

So here's a little tip to help you along. Mess with her.

That's right. Tease. Joke. Be difficult. Act as though you've known her for as long as you can remember. This may sound crazy, but this instantly tells her the following:

1) You aren't afraid of what she thinks of you.

2) You're fun.

3) You're unpredictable.

4) You're a wild card.

5) You're a guy who gets the picture.

You see, it's a lot simpler to tell whether or not she's interested than you think. If you engage her, and she engages you back, then that means it's on. If she bumps you in the bar and you go, “Hey, watch it, okay, I need about a foot of space here!” and she plays along and pretends to move away, then it's on.

If she laughs when you ask if there's a puppy in her oversized handbag, it's on.

If she laughs and agrees when you invite her to your table, it's on.

In a nutshell, you'll need to stop looking around for signs that women are attracted to you. Stop caring what she thinks of you. And instead of waiting for the attraction, go ahead and trigger it on your own. Remember that the signs are caused by you.