If you meet a stranger, in a business conference, for instance, you look at them in a zigzag manner. You look from one eye to the other, and across the bridge of her or his nose. If you look at a friend you take your eyes below eye level, peering at them in the shape of a triangle, not only looking from eye to eye but also looking at their mouth and nose. If, however, you are flirting, you increase the area of your triangle, widening at the bottom to take in more of her or his body, and will move our gaze more intently from one eye to the other. You'll also look more at the person's mouth. If you see this pattern, especially if she or he is looking often at your mouth, it's a flirt. That person may be longing to kiss you.



Recognizing these habits can help you in your reading body language and can improve your dating success.

If you want to do your own sort of body language to improve dating success and let the recipient read you, try mirroring what he or she does. Do whatever that person you're flirting with does. When he leans into you to talk, lean towards him. If she sits back, sips her drink and looks right into your eyes, pause a bit and then do exactly the same. This reading of body language and then mirroring it is supposed to improve dating success because people like people who are like them. If you and they are doing the same things, then that person with whom you are flirting is apt to think you are on her or his wave length and in the same mood.

There are a couple of cautions with this body language, though. It won't improve your dating success if the person is reading your body language as mimicking or making fun of. What you want to do is capture the basic spirit of what she or he is doing, and only mirror positive interaction. In general, you'll want to wait nearly one minute before you read her or his body language and respond with the same mannerisms.

Reading body language can require practice, and to improve your dating success you'll have to be very observant. One of the indicators, for example, that someone finds you appealing lasts less than a second. It's the eyebrow rise. When a person sees someone he or she finds attractive his eyebrows rise and then fall. It's an unconscious habit and happens no matter what country or culture you're in. If the other person might be trying to improve her or his dating success by reading your body language you might try holding your raised eyebrows for a second or two, and give her or him the message you are interested.

The trick is to watch for it when you meet someone you fancy. Better still, tell them you're interested on a subconscious level by prolonging your eyebrow flash for up to one second - deliberately raise them while catching their eye for full impact.