Making decisions that affect your child's development, safety, health, education and happiness should, under the most favorable of circumstances, be made by both his parents. You will actually have to interface with your ex. I know that's so difficult for you emotionally, but once again, you'll have to suffer a bit so that your children enjoy the best benefits you can provide for them. No matter what you currently think about your ex, when it comes time to communicate for the sake of your children, you're going to have to suck it up, be an adult, and act objectively. I know it's challenging, but if I could make it happen, you can too.



All kids are eager for their mom and dad to review their school work. They are proud of their accomplishments and they love to please you, so they want you to be proud, too. You can only do that if you actually go to their school and see their work.

So, when it's time for the Parent Teacher Conference, this needs to be one time when the two of you lay down the tomahawks and objectively place your child's welfare ahead of any negative emotions you might be experiencing. If ever you wanted to be an actor or actress, here's a great place to practice. What is your motivation? Wanting your kid to be proud and feel accomplished for the work he has done.

And your child needs to know that if his teacher thinks there are areas that need to be worked on, both his parents will be vigilant about seeing that he works on them. This will make demands on both of your levels of maturity, but as I mentioned before, put the child first, suck it up and just do it.

when your child turns adult, someday you can have lunch with him and tell him how challenging this was for you. He'll be able to handle the emotions then that he's to immature for now. But now that the divorce is newer, try to keep your struggles to communicate with his other parent non-obvious. It is one of the most practical aspects of loving and your child really deserves that, right? And by then, he'll also recognize your wisdom.