Many guys approach their wives for sex, while completely ignoring her current mind state. For example, it seems like the most popular method of initiating sex is just flat out suggesting it.



The guy just asks her out of nowhere: "Do you want to have sex?"

They suggest sex (or focus on convincing her to have sex) while refusing to understand that her desire for sexual passion is based on 'emotions'.

Could you imagine a guy walking up to a smiling woman and saying to her: "Could you start crying please?"

More than likely, it would be extremely difficult for her to produce 'wet' tears based on the mere suggestion.

In order for her to cry (experience an emotional response), he would have to say something to bring out that type of response.

It works the same way with getting her in the mood.

The key to having a long lasting amazing sex life is very simple. It's all about doing things that predictably affect her emotional state. Once she is the right sexually charged 'emotional state', there's no need to suggest it.

In other words, if she is starring at you with a Sex Hungry look in her eyes, you don't have to ask her: "Do you want to have sex?"

You simply TELL HER: "Get on the bed NOW and take your clothes off!"

That's assuming that she hasn't already ripped your clothes off.

With that said, it's best to do things in stages. Emotional stages.

For example, if a woman experiences a certain emotional mind state, licking her slowly on her neck could give her the shivers. If you ever heard a woman moan as you are kissing her neck, you know what I mean. And kissing her there for just 9 seconds could instantly take up her 7 levels of excitement.

But you have to start with the first stage.

The good news it's easy as pie, but more importantly it's nearly impossible to not succeed at the first step. So here are 3 first stage tips to getting her tingly inside.

You already know that it's very important to make sure that your partner knows how much you value her. So when you start things off the right way she goes from a neutral mind state to a emotionally happy mind state. And that's because you made her feel special.

Arouse Wife Tip #1 (To Get Her In The Mood)

The physical gift is certainly the most classic expression of love. However, you don't have to just stick with candy, jewelry, and flowers. A gift more tailored to your girlfriend's interests and hobbies will let her know that not only do you care about her enough to spend money, you've been paying attention.

It's not the cost that counts, but how well a gift fits her. And if you do this the right way and at the right time, it could instantly get her in a romantic mind state.

Arouse Wife Tip #2 (To Get Her In The Mood)

Physical affection is an important way to show your wife how you feel. This doesn't necessarily mean sex.

This kind of affection means a lot to many women. One great way to let your wife (or girlfriend) know how special she is to you is just by hugging her periodically.

And although it can very often get her instantly turned on, that shouldn't be the goal.

And the only way a display of physical affection can lead to sex is if she doesn't get the impression that you are doing it because you want sex from her.

When a woman craves a love-making session, it's because she experienced the emotional response of feeling special and loved. It rarely happens because the guy has communicated that he wants sex.

So don't train her to reject your 'cuddling' by requesting sex every time you display physical affection. Don't grab her breasts and rub her in a sexual way. You want your display of physical affection to communicate to her that you think she is special.

Be sincere about it.

The key is to focus on making her feel special.

Arouse Wife Tip #3 (To Get Her In The Mood)

You have to increase your sexual value. I always tell guys that improving your sex life is a very simple process. If you want to get sex more often you MUST realize that the common approaches out there are flawed, because there are only 2 things you need to focus on.

And that is making her experience the right sequence of emotional responses. And doing what it takes to increase your sexual value. If you are a beginner at increasing your sexual value, then start with three things that would make her respect you more.

Then, make a list of 3 things that you can do to make her feel valued.

Everything changes when you increase your sexual value.