If you answered yes to this question, think about this: If you know that they are not your soul mate and/or there is no possibility of a true, loving, committed relationship with them, would you be willing to give yourself all the time that it takes to let them go? I don’t believe that you have to stop loving them but I do believe you need to find a new place in your heart for them. When I envision my own heart, I see it as a vast, loving, elastic, sacred space that fits within my chest and expands to encompass the Universe. There is a chamber in my heart for people that I love, or have loved, but no longer have my attention on. Take some time to find a place in your heart where you can send your former lovers love but not spend any of your precious time “wanting" them. So often people will tell you to “just forget about them" when really, that just isn’t possible for you. I think a lot of pain comes from resisting our true feelings for someone. Allow yourself to love them but not be consumed by thoughts of being with them.
As your thoughts of this person come up, quickly tuck them into your special heart chamber and turn your attention to something else. If you find yourself obsessing, wishing, hoping, fantasizing about what you can’t have (or what isn’t in your highest and best good) it then becomes an issue of managing your emotions. There are many great forms of therapy and emotional processes to help you with this including EMDR, hypnosis, and The Sedona Method (more details about this are in the Resource Guide).
Be willing to spend the time and money to get professional support if you need it. I certainly did my share of therapy and workshops and found all of it incredibly useful.
Are there any past relationships that I am incomplete with? (someone you are still angry with, feeling betrayed by, haven’t forgiven, etc.?)
Identify who you need to complete with – this would include what they did and what you did and your thoughts on what it will take to make you “ok" with the situation. I have found that writing a detailed letter (that will probably never get mailed) is the fastest way to download all the hurt and upset. If you answered yes to this question, take fifteen minutes now to write this letter. In the letter, be sure to acknowledge and apologize for the part you played in the situation (If you are thinking you’ll do this “later," I invite you
to do it now.)
Day In The Life Part 1
There was a poor man who wanted some money; and somehow he had heard that if he could get hold of a ghost, he might command him to bring money or anything else he liked; so he was very anxious to get hold of a ghost. He went about searching for a man who would give him a ghost, and at last he found a sage with great powers, and besought his help. The sage asked him what he would do with a ghost. 'I want a ghost to work for me; teach me how to get hold of one, sir; I desire it very much,' replied the man. But the sage said, 'Don't disturb yourself, go home.' The next day the man went again to the sage and began to weep and pray, 'Give me a ghost; I must have a ghost, sir, to help me.'
At last the sage was disgusted, and said, 'Take this charm, repeat this magic word and a ghost will come, and whatever you say to him he will do. But beware; they are terrible beings, and must be kept continually busy. If you fail to give him work, he will take your life.' The man replied, 'That is easy; I can give him work foe all his life.' Then he went to a forest, and after long repetition of the magic word, a huge ghost appeared before him, and said, 'I am a ghost. I have been conquered by your magic; but you must keep me constantly employed. The moment you fail to give me work I will kill you.' The man said, 'Build me a palace,' and the ghost said, 'It is done; the palace is built.' 'Bring me money,' said the man. 'Here is your money,' said the ghost. 'Cut this forest down, and build a city in its place.' 'That is done,' said the ghost, 'anything more?'
Now the man began to be frightened and thought he could give him nothing more to do; he did everything in a trice. The ghost said, 'Give me something to do or I will eat you up.' The poor man could find no further occupation for him, and was frightened. So he ran and ran and at last reached the sage, and said, 'Oh, sir, protect my life!' The sage asked him what the matter was, and the man replied, 'I have nothing to give the ghost to do. Everything I tell him to do he does in a moment, and he threatens to eat me up if I do not give him work.' Just then the ghost arrived; saying, 'I'll eat you up,' and he would have swallowed the man. The man began to shake, and begged the sage to save his life.
The sage said, 'I will find a way out. Look at that dog with a curly tail. Draw your sword quickly and cut the tail off and give it to the ghost to straighten out.' The man cut off the dog's tail and gave it to the ghost, saying, 'Straighten that out for me.' The ghost took it and slowly and carefully straightened it out, but as soon as he let it go, it instantly curled up again. Once more he laboriously straightened it out, only to find it again curled up as soon as he attempted to let go of it. Again he patiently straightened it out, but as soon as he let it go, it curled up again. So he went on for days and days, until he was exhausted and said, 'I was never in such trouble.' 'I will make a compromise with you;' he said to the man, 'you let me off and I will let you keep all I have given you and will promise not to harm you.' The man was much pleased, and accepted the offer gladly.
This world is like a dog's curly tail, and people have been striving to straighten it out for hundreds of years; but when they let it go, it has curled up again. How could it be otherwise? One must first know how to work without attachment, then one will not be a fanatic.
We are often too much obsessed with the historical events of the world. We give far too much attention to social reform. If you notice the history of mankind you will find out that while we have advanced to a great extent on the technological and economic front our progress has been dismal when it comes to leading a quality life. One of the biggest mistakes we make is we equate increase in the standard of living to a quality life. We have so far been busying ourselves in matters of economy and social reform and so our standard of living has exponentially increased. However, in this mad rush towards changing the outward circumstances we have distanced ourselves from the present moment which forms an important aspect of our life.
Social reform of any measure will never be able to increase the quality of human life. Never. It has to be backed by spiritual reform. The present moment has to be strengthened without which all our efforts, all our work in the external world would only give a momentary high and very soon would curl back to its original position like the story of the dogs curly tail.
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