Are you aware of your own internal diaglogue? Do you actually listen to what your inner voice is telling you throughout the day? This inner voice is continually talking to, judging you, your circumstances, situations and other people. Regardless of how positive or confident you are you will have an inner critic that constantly reminds you of your limitations and offers a multitude of reasons for your impending failure.



The fact is we always use inner talk throughout the day. Sometimes it is positive but most of the time it is extremely negative and reminds us of our problems, past failures and limitations. What if you could teach that inner voice to be your greatest ally and biggest fan? Do you think your thoughts, actions and life would be transform?

The first thing to understand is that this inner voice is in no way your enemy. No matter how critical or judgemental and negative your inner talk is your inner voice is your best friend. It is trying to protect you. The very fact that this inner critic is a positive aspect of your mental processes and is designed to help protect you from uncomfortable situations is the reason why it's so easy to transform it into your greatest fan! It wants to help!

How you use your inner voice and the way you speak to yourself internally is just a learned habit. You have done this so many times that it has become an automatic process. Now this is not as frightening or disheartening as it may first appear because if you have learned to do something in a certain way then you can learn to do it in a different way.

Now trying to force this voice to become more positive is self-defeating and needs a lot of energy. There are much more effective ways to create positive inner dialogue.

There is one simple technique that involves a rubber band. The band is placed around your wrist and snapped against your skin everytime you catch yourself in a critical or negative thought. This stings just a little but after awhile your subconscious mind relates negative, critical thinking with pain. After you snap the band immediately think the opposite positive thought. You can also stroke your wrist gently where the rubber band snapped against your skin. By doing this simple exercise many time throughout that day for seven days you literally reprogram your mind to be more positive.

You can also try another way. Become aware of the way in which your inner critic talks to you. Listen to the tone and identify where in your head it is speaking from. The inner critic can be found usually in the center of your head but can you tell if it is more left than right or higher up or lower down? Is it close or far away? When you identify where this voice is originating from and how it is speaking to you, you can start to play with it.

You can interrupt this voice and begin to alter its pattern very effectively in a fun way. Repeat what your inner critical voice just said to you but give it a funny squeaky high-pitched voice. Move it to a different are of your head. Speed it up or slow it down. Make it louder and then softer. Play it backwards or make it speak in tones that rise and then fall. Doing this in a way that you find funny will teach your subconscious mind that you do not take this criticism and negatively seriously. After a short while this inner critical voice will start to fade and you will find that your internal dialogue becomes much more positive and uplifting.

Your personal development is in your own hands. You inner voice can be your greatest motivator or your worst critic. Which one you want it to be is your choice!