Divorce is often used in reference to the dissolution of marriage. According to the dictionary divorce can also be used to refer to the separation of anything that should go together. Divorce can be rather shocking to those going through the end of their marriage. This is partly due to the fact that they were so sure they belonged together and now recognize they were wrong to marry.

Some people I have spoken with admit they were surprised at the feeling that they failed in their relationship. Having once been divorced myself, my reaction was different. I had thoughts of ending my marriage and gaining freedom for years before I confronted my husband with the request for divorce. As a result, when I finally told my husband I wanted a divorce, he was the only one who was shocked.

Any feelings of failure I had were because I thought I should have realized that my husband and I weren't meant to be together in the first place. I thought that if we had recognized this fact before getting married, we could have spared our families a lot of grief and money.

As we did not have children, the circumstances surrounding our divorce were different from couples who did. Rather than feelings of failure and shock, I was overcome by a sense of tranquility when it was finally over. These feelings were most likely influenced by the fact that there were no children involved to complicate matters.

The outcome of the decision to separate has a huge impact on children that were not involved in the decision-making process. Conversations with divorced friends with children have shown that children have more difficulty dealing with divorce than spouses do.

When two people decide to get married, they are usually so sure they belong together and have confidence in the success of their marriage. Of course, this doesn't include people who marry for financial or immigration purposes. The reality is that you can't know for sure if you belong with someone until you actually live with them. That's something I learned from my mother. She used to say that you never really know someone until you work or live with them.

After reading the divorce description in the dictionary, I do believe that one reason for divorce is that some people probably marry the one person they feel they go together with. Then, after living together, maybe even having children together, they find that they do not go together. Then they divorce.