You must remember: accept and forgive. It doesn't mean you want to go back and live it over. It doesn't mean you would keep the marriage together. It means you can move on with your own life, and live with the fact that your ex is doing the same thing.
Your ex-spouse's life is meant to take a different path. If you have children then you will always be part of each other's lives. But you will be able to detach and view your ex as the parent of your children instead of as your spouse. A new relationship will emerge. The roles are different. You choose how you are going to play this out. You can deal with your spouse either with kindness and understanding, having truly put the pain of divorce behind you, or you can harbor ill feelings and hang on to old hurts and feelings of betrayal. The choice is yours. Choose wisely. One road leads to peace and serenity and the other to anger, frustration, and pain.
This is your time of refection and soul-searching. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You will reach it. Right now you may not be able see past the hurt, anger, and pain. But trust me, life will become joyful and complete once again. You get to decide the life you want to have. Don't turn bitter. It may be the easy path now, but later on it will be the hard road, and there won't be any exits. How you see your divorce is the most essential choice you will make.
I now see my divorce for the many gifts it has brought to my life. Amidst the pain and sorrow, I learned some tremendous life lessons. Now I can bring these into my new life and create a more compelling future. Listen to your heart. Trust in the knowledge that you will survive this devastating loss. You will survive, and you will thrive again.
The Language Of Letting Go
The reason for us needing to know ourselves very deeply in application to this law, is the fact that on a subconscious and unconscious level what happens to us really does matter, and we respond to situations as though they matter. While we're in this frame of mind, we're never going to be able to practice and use the law of "it matters not".
By allowing outsider to affect us and this can be as close as family members, telling us they don't approve of things we are allowing how they affect us and in turn holding onto their beliefs rather than allowing them to be and gently letting go and moving forward along our path that feels right to us.
So it's only when we accept ourselves and are at peace and centred with who we are, that we're able to apply the law of it matters not from a sub and unconscious level. However some of us might insist on the use of man's laws instead of the natural laws, and think along the lines of "it doesn't matter." But the fact is it does matter, because only when acknowledge and accept ourselves, can we truly apply the law of it matters not.
Once we do begin applying the law of it matters not we can begin to respond, create and react from our highest level of thought and intelligence. This is us basically looking inside ourselves, rather than for external approval from what others see in us.
You begin to notice how important this law is as you go through life and gain deeper understanding of it. You'll begin to apply and implement the wisdom gained from this and be able to use it for the better of humanity, which will create a greater love, understanding and acceptance of yourself. And from understanding yourself you'll receive the opportunity to grow personally.
For example, you've fought for quite an extended period of time to get a promotion or move up in the world to where you feel you have "real" purpose. But for whatever reason, according to man's law (this could be your boss, authorities or others) you learn that they don't approve of your new role and deny you the right to follow your purpose.
Now this could really cause a great deal of conflict in your life, when you oppose what everyone else thinks and you create a great deal of animosity between you and the party involved.
If you just let go, and live by the law of it matters not, and know well within yourself that by you doing what you're passionate about doing, you'll bring about a positive outcome for yourself and eventually others as well. Above all else, you'll be living in alignment with the law of it matters not.
Once we understand this natural law it becomes quite simple to apply it when we are doing our daily activities. It helps prepare us for whatever balance or imbalance that might manifest itself to us, and we're willing to investigate it, accept it and work in conjunction with it.
So in understanding and taking onboard this attitude of "it matters not," we'll never again worry about what others think of us, because we'll know that another man's opinion about us is only reflecting their insecurities or pride they hold in themselves, it's like a mirror. We attract into our lives the people, situations and scenarios that we need to learn from ourselves, and quite often while some of these are quite uncomfortable, we can often identify a mirror of that quality in ourselves somewhere. So we need to practice "non-judgment" and understand that our health is always in alignment with how much we accept, love and forgive ourselves.
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