Twenty-five decades ago, the most instrumental book on warfare was written. The author, Sun Tzu successfully conquered his enemies for decades using the tactics and principles he described in his book, The Art of War. Napoleon waged war on all of Europe only to be defeated when he strayed from the book's principles, and even General Schwarzkopf seemed to find much of his basic strategy for the first Gulf War in the guide.
The Art of War
The book, penned by a general with tremendous knowledge and success is combat, is powerful and has proven itself many times over. What the Art of War is lacking, however, is the sort of morality and ethics we might look for in a general today. According to Sun Zu, the self-interest of the king and kingdom were most important and treachery and deceit were only two additional weapons to be used in the course of war as necessary.
When examined on this level, it would be easy to dismiss the book as a sound basis for legal practice today. After all, lawyers have a bad enough reputation without openly embracing deceit and treachery. But digging deeper into the book reveals that winning at all costs is not the message Sun Tzu was making. Indeed, according to the ancient general, ?"[T]he true object of war is peace."
Rapid Resolutions
He goes on to explain that when engaged in the battle, the goal of the general and army is to end the fray as quickly as possible. "In all history, there is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare. Only one who knows the disastrous effects of a long war can realize the supreme importance of rapidly bringing it to a close.?
This rationale flies in the face of most legal proceedings today. Many lawyers drag battles on in the court room hoping to gain ground against the opposition. The longer the battle wages, however, the more harm comes to all parties. The goal of a battle is not to win at all costs; it is to win as quickly as possible in order to restore peace.
Modern Mediation
The practice of mediation is much like Sun Tzu's version of battle. Sun Tzu emphasized preparing for battle by trying to avoid it. "To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting."
He also observes, "To begin by bluster, but afterward to take fright at the enemy's numbers, shows a supreme lack of intelligence."
In courthouses across America, lawyers are blustering on client's behalf trying for the win, even against all odds. But as Tzu observes, when faced with an unconquerable enemy, success may entail minimizing your losses.
In employment mediation there is not a battle to the death. There is only the struggle between two parties to resolve the conflict quickly to reduce all costs both financial and emotional in pursuit of the final goal ? restored peace.
The Operational Art Of War
The applicability of it's principles encompasses that of an actual combat. The book's wisdom can be applied to almost every aspect of life. The Art of War is like a master key which unlocks the door to winning in every known situation - including dating.
Laying Down of Plans
"If you know yourself and the enemy, you will always win. If you know yourself but not the enemy, sometimes you will win and sometimes you may not. If you do not know yourself or your enemy, you will always be defeated."The majority of dates fail because of a mismatch. This means that either you don't know what you're looking for in a date or you don't know what to expect from your date (personality, beliefs, culture, etc.) or you are not ready to be the perfect date or all of the above.
"The warriors of old, before they went into battle, first made themselves invincible." This principle, when applied to dating, means that you must first be ready for a date before you can count on a second date and a lasting relationship. For your date to be fascinated by you, you must be assured that she sees you as a possible lover or as an attractive person this can be accomplished through the "use of spies". To know what she thinks, how she thinks, and why she thinks that way will be invaluable in your quest to get her attention and win her heart.
Going to Battle
Now being privy to the desires of her heart you must waste no time in making them a reality. In war as in dating, the element of surprise is a vital factor. If you know that she likes flowers, send her the best bouquet or if she likes poetry, then make an effort to unleash the bard in you and overwhelm her with rosy words so that her heart will melt for you. This gives testimony to the adage, "To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy's resistance without even fighting".
"The general who wins a battle makes many calculations before the battle is fought. The general who loses a battle makes but few calculations. Thus do many calculations lead to a victory, and few calculations to defeat; how much more no calculation at all," so says James Clavell in his study of the Art of War, which you can clearly apply to dating as well.
Dating, like all other kinds of human endeavor, has a goal. For most people the goal of dating is to find a lover, a soul mate, a match. You can achieve success in dating by using The Art Of War as a guide.
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