Jealousy can be as dangerous and destructive as cheating is in itself. So if you are becoming a jealous, suspicious partner you need to bare in mind that to carry on in this manner is just as wrong as cheating in the first place. But how on earth can you find out for sure? There are many ways. Some of them are quite obvious - but some of them are not so obvious.



But one thing is certain. Life is hard and sometimes unbearable when you suspect that you have a cheating wife but can't be sure. When I unfortunately found myself in this unpleasant situation I even wondered if my child was mine or someone elses - not a nice thought.

If you find out that you have been betrayed this can leave you in a very difficult situation. Personally, I spent five whole years trying to forgive my cheating wife while I was still with her. Five years - that's a really long time. And you're probably thinking that in the end I found it too difficult and gave up? Wrong!

I could handle forgiving her,(she was worth it) but she could not handle being forgiven! And there is another side to it. Why on earth did she do it in the first place? For a little bit of fun on the side? Nope, not in my case. In my case I was the one at fault for much of the relationship and it was only when she could cope no more that she found it impossible to end. There was only one way out for her. Self-destruction of the relationship.

It's a funny old life but this is the truth. I was very bitter for a long time. She destroyed the relationship to the extent where I had to do something. She was just happy to 'sit in' there so that I was the one who take the blame. But once all the rowing and fighting had become so bad that it was upsetting our three year old son I just had to do something. I tried hard to repair it, but she wanted out so she railroaded all of my attempts to do this.

I found out afterwards that she was planning for her future for a long time. Future partners were being lined up. She was also creating circumstances so that when the inevitable split occurred, she came out of it on top financially whereas I was screwed. Cowardly behaviour? Yes. Expect it. It's human nature, sadly, for some people. Well this world revolves around the survival of the fittest. I was grieving, she was planning ahead. She might have been a cheating wife but she was never a stupid wife.