There is often a time in a relationship that things seem to have slowed to a crawl; sometimes it seems that things in a relationship may have gone into reverse, too. Often people are left to wonder what happened. Here are the top ten mistakes that people can make in a relationship; sometimes people learn from these mistakes, and other times people repeat them over and over again through each new relationship that they try.



10. People not being honest about how they really feel and what really bothers them. People tend to act like nothing is bothering them to avoid talking about the problem, rather than be honest and talk to resolve an issue. It is often easier to avoid conflict than it is to talk about something that may start an argument.

9. Too many people forget that love takes time; nothing grows quickly, and nothing fades quickly, either. People have a nasty habit of either going too fast then leaving too soon.

8. When people are involved in a relationship, some tend to forget the importance of things like sleep, work, or health. True, in the beginning of a relationship, many people find that their new love interest is all they can think about, but that isnt always a good thing.

7. Searching for love without knowing what you need or what you really want is certain to cause more than problems. It is impossible for someone to live up to your expectations when they dont know what those are, and when you dont, either.

6. Using all of your energy on creating romance (with or without sex) instead of working on the relationship itself is a common mistake that many people make. Once the focus is set on sex or romance, if that sex becomes less frequent or the romance gets harder to find, the relationship will decline as well.

5. Believe it or not, many people think that if the sex between partners is good, the relationship must be good, too. Sex is an important part of a relationship, but it cannot be the relationship.

4. People tend to rely on their first impressions of others to make their choices about the relationship. Whether this means first impressions of others outside of the relationship or first impressions of something about your partner, a wrong first impression could mean disaster for a relationship.

3. Creating a relationship without also creating a friendship makes what you and your partner have like a ticking time bomb. What will the two of you do when you are in a situation that calls for more friendship like activities?

2. Failing to realize what happened in your last relationship that ended it. When people do not recognize a mistake, fault, or circumstance, they are almost sure to repeat it over, and over again.

1. Many people seem to base their level of happiness on someone else. People need to establish their own life and be happy and successful with it before they can be happy with someone else. It is a recipe for disaster to base your whole existence on one person.