Begin with the following clarifying questions: "What do I really want?" In the example of attracting a mate, ask, "If I had my ideal mate, what would she/he be like? How would I describe him/her? How would I describe his/her personality? How would others describe our relationship? How would they describe him/her?"



"What behavior would he/she display that illustrates these characteristics? How would he/she communicate with me, with others, and with life? How will I know I've obtained my desires? How will I recognize him/her?"

This should assist you in creating a tangible list of what you want. Now, ask the opposite question. "What do I NOT want? What are the qualities in a mate that I really do NOT want, and can't stand?" Once you have this list and your pen is silent for a pregnant pause, ask the question, "If I don't want this characteristic, then what is the opposite of this that I DO want?" When you have the answer, add that to your first list of what you want.

In this example, your list would begin to look something like this:

I want a mate who is:

1. Kind

2. Considerate

3. Loving

4. Confident

5. Fun

6. Attractive

I don't want a mate who is:

1. Rude

2. Insecure

3. Hurtful

4. Unfaithful

5. Jealous

6. Greedy

Opposite that I want:

1. Not rude = kind, has finesse, grace, humility, is authentic but humble, understanding, accepting of others

2. Not Insecure = secure with herself, secure with her status, her finances, her career, her ability to love, her ability to commit and to receive love, secure with her future, secure with our relationship, has faith in me, has faith in our ability to work through challenges

3. Not hurtful = not defensive = confident with herself, doesn't take things personal = is so secure with her life, her choices, that she confidently goes with the flow, allows life to roll off her back, is flexible, strong, centered, balanced, kind to others, considerate, communicates her real feelings in a healthy way, works hard at being thoughtful of other's feelings while remaining true to herself, is tactful but authentic

4. Not unfaithful = faithful, committed, believes in working out issues, believes in monogamy, marriage, and commitment

5. Not Jealous = confident in our love, our relationship, and secure with allowing freedom to flow between us easily

6. Not greedy = balanced in her desire to give and receive, she's not selfish therefore she is giving, thoughtful, generous, healthy in her ability to love and give freely

The WANTS become your working list to use in visualizing. This is really important - you must focus on what you WANT, not on what you DO NOT want in order to attract intentionally. The only reason to clarify what we do NOT want is to uncover more of what we really DO want.

Therefore, keep your list of "don't wants" but stash it away, and only look at it when a "sign of land" (which we'll learn about later), comes along and you need to evaluate where your attention is or what needs to be added to this list. Remember, any time you find yourself pushing against what you do not want, you are actually attracting that to you.

Now with your list in hand, start visualizing with the PIPP1 formula.

1) P = Pick a Scene

2) I = Immerse your Senses

3) PP = add Passion & Power

4) 1 = in the 1st Person, present tense

First, pick a scene that you can recall, get yourself into it, or confidently imagine it. Then, immerse your senses by selecting strong sensory words that stir sensory memories, and spice your visualization experience. These sensations should also add a level of natural comfort. Next, add passion and power by getting emotional! Describe your feelings with the words that actually invoke and rouse the real feelings in your heart.

Get passionate about your desire, and fuel it with powerful, confident, commanding emotions and statements. Lastly, articulate your vision in the first person, present tense by using the two most powerful words in the human language: "I am."

An example of this that you might use: "I am joyously walking hand in hand towards the new Minute Maid sports stadium. I am with my love, and am so grateful that she loves sports and the outdoors the way that I do. Her delicate skin is soft, and lovely next to mine. The sky is crystal blue, and the northern breeze keeps us cool, and comfortable. The sweet, hickory smell is echoing from the outdoor grills of the tailgaters. I hear the rumbling excitement as we walk past the fans, and they begin to scurry to the entrance as well. Laughter and unintelligible chatter fills the air."

"Everyone seems to be enthusiastic, and excited. Our scrumptious lunch still lingers on my taste buds, and I tell her again how grateful I am that she went to such lengths to prepare such a fabulous meal. She smiles sweetly, and says, 'It was nothing. I am grateful that you enjoy my cooking.' She then says, 'and, if ever I can improve upon something, or do something better, I want you to tell me. I'm always open to improvement and constructive feedback.' I am so blessed to have her in my life."

"I think, 'Wow, I love how well adjusted she is. I am truly appreciative and admire her for having done her own personal growth work. She is centered, confident, flexible, and flowing. I am grateful to be so attracted to her,' and she whispers fearlessly 'You are so good-looking. I just love being with you.' I feel comfortable with her confidence, and feel that she understands me like no one ever has. I feel blessed and totally joyous that she makes a point to tell me that she accepts me exactly as I am. I feel loved, and I love her joyously! I am so grateful. I am so fabulously happy!"

With enough practice, you'll get remarkably clever at imagining even the simplest scenes that can have grand power. You want to be able to visualize simple situations such as talking and interacting, discussing finances, talking about commitment, spirituality, or planning for your future, children, retirement, living, facing challenges, etc. It's important to really imagine the surrounding environment, and allow yourself to get carried away in the fantasy.

The Universe does not distinguish the difference between your reality and your imagination. The more you can immerse yourself in the visualization the more powerful you will be in consciously creating the desire in your life. The more you imagine and feel the feeling of having already obtained your goal; being with your partner; getting that ideal job; traveling to your dream destination; or already acquiring prosperity and success, the closer you will be to actually manifesting it.

Congratulations, you've now completed the first important step - learning to visualize!