Without doubt, those who are able to stand upright in the face of scrutiny, usually have an abundance of integrity. They know what it means to say no in the face of everyone else crying yes. That is not an easy to do.

On the other hand, those who make the most noise always seem to draw the biggest crowd. That is unfortunate, because those with character and integrity should really be the leaders.

I teach my 7 year old grandson to always make sure the things you do in the dark will be able to stand up in the light of day. He understands that victory will be his when he makes those wise choices.

I tell him to choose the right words man. (He has a small stature, he loves when I call him man.)

I add that his words must be well thought out and then weighed in the balances before you send them out to work for you.

He teases me sometimes and tells me to keep your guard up Papa.

Protect yourself at all times. We always have a laugh when he says that.

At present, he and I are reading a doubleday book by Peter Schweizer called Do As I Say (Not As I Do). A short book; about 250 pages. Schweizer starts by thanking the many celebrities for living such inconsistent lives. Can you imagine that?

Both of us thought that was a really comical. But when you start reading the book, it is not so funny. The people are well known and well liked throughout the world. They say they espouse certain beliefs, but they each live contrary to those beliefs.

None of the people in the book would be able to stand if they were exposed. It is a joke. They are not real. The sad part about it is that millions model themselves after these people. What a sad state of affairs.

When its all said and done, I have found it easier to write for people who have been living examples of a character reference letter. On the flip side of the coin, the most frustrating letter for me to write has been for those who live hypocritical examples of a character reference letter.