This gets a little philosophical, but if you think about it, you'll know its true. The only thing you can really control in this world is yourself. Worrying about what your ex is doing, who they are with, whether they still love you and so on is pointless. Would it help you in any way if you knew they were out with someone else right this minute? Would the information do you any good at all, or just make you more stressed out? Does worrying about this do anything at all to help you get back together?

You can't change who your ex is with, what they are doing, how they feel about you. You can't control any of that. Suppose you knew your ex was at the coffee shop down the street with someone else right now. So what? What would you do, go down there and make a scene? How would that help you get back together? If anything, trying to interfere would just make it that much harder to bring back the love of your life. It might feel good in the moment, but you know you would regret it.

So don't think about who your ex is with right now. Don't worry about whether they still love you or not. Instead, focus on what you can control, which is yourself. When your mind is full of doubt and fear, it affects how you see the world and how you interact with others. It isn't a pretty scene. You surely know someone who is perpetually worrying and doubting everything. Is it attractive? Are they someone people want to be with? If your mind is constantly full of worry and doubt, you'll become more like that person. Why would your ex (or anyone else) want to be with you if you are like that?

Instead of fretting about your ex, concentrate on becoming the kind of person your ex would want to get back together with. Become the kind of person who attracts others to you. Try to become the best person you can be. People who have their act together like this are incredibly attractive to others. Your ex won't be the only one to notice. Follow this approach and your ex may soon be worrying about all the attention you are getting and wondering whether you even want to get back together with them!

Not only will you increase the chances that you will get back together, but you'll be a happier, healthier person who isn't plagued by doubts and fears. Whether or not you and your ex get back together in the end, your life will be better than if you continued to wallow in doubt and fear.