Troubles with your love life? Has your man or woman left you? Are they planning to?

This is a common problem for many couples, especially these days when financial issues can add further stress. An even bigger problem is knowing there is trouble but doing nothing about it. Pretending that the problem will just go away or somehow take care of itself is a big mistake.

The ONLY solution is to do something – now – before it gets worse.

Too often when a problem is looming and nothing is done about it, the day may come when your partner walks out and you are left wondering how it came to this or how you can win them back. If you are having problems in your relationship or marriage and want to avoid a breakup, or want to turn things around before it’s too late, the best way is to rejuvenate your love life and bring back the excitement it once had, but it requires some effort.

Every relationship has some degree of problems that require work. It’s due to the 80/20 rule. When you are in the courting phase of a relationship you choose to focus on the 80% that’s good about another person and ignore or overlook the 20% that you may not care for. After some time goes by, there seems to be a shift and for reasons unknown you tend to concentrate on the 20% you don’t care for which drives you crazy; placing less emphasis on the 80%. Big mistake, but you are human. It won’t matter how many times you try for greener pastures, eventually this rule kicks in. So you must make the decision whether or not the person you are with is the one you want to be with for the long haul. Not every relationship is meant to last forever, but most are, so don’t give up.

Relationship issues are inevitable for any romantic couple, you just have to be willing, as a couple, to address those issues and in doing so become stronger in the process. If, as a couple, you are willing to be optimistic, patient and understanding, you can turn any problem into an experience that will help you and your mate fall even deeper in love. Both parties have to be willing to try and want to refocus on the 80% that makes their minds joyful and body tingle (in a good way!).

When my marriage of 14 years was coming to an end, it was determined that no matter how badly I wanted it to work out, my ex was determined to move on to greener pastures. Even a marriage counselor said, “ you need to let this one go, you may be hurt for awhile, but in the long run you will meet someone who will truly love you for who you are and be happier in the end". Though devastated, I agreed to the divorce, and he was right. I had always loved the proverb, “If you love something, set it free; if it returns it’s yours, if not it was never meant to be." So I let go and worked through the pain and depression. Time passed and I learned to forgive. Now happily married, not without problems, there is finally a solid foundation in which both of us are willing to build upon for life.

Relationships are very delicate and must be continually nurtured. When things start to go wrong with them it can quickly spiral into a breakup. The best way to stop a breakup is to recognize that problems exist and discuss them with your partner. Do not expect the problems to fix themselves. Be proactive; attack the issues, not your mate, and find solutions. As long as you both have the same goal in mind your efforts will be worth your time.

Almost any breakup can be attributed to some form of a communication problem. Breakdowns in communication can lead to distrust and unhappiness. Communication lines must remain open. Talking about the problems within your relationship and discussing ways that each of you can be more supportive to the other is a big part of the answer. It only takes one to start the communication, but it takes both to make communication work effectively. Take the “ME" out of the relationship and focus on the “WE".

Facing the prospect of a potential breakup can be stressful and the fear of being lonely can be overwhelming. Too much time and energy is given to who is to blame. Forgiveness of yourself and your mate must be achieved regardless if you stay together or not. Forgiveness is paramount to the future success of any relationship. Forgiveness is more for your benefit than the other person.

There are many tools available to get you through each step of saving your relationship or possibly getting over it. Win back love by visiting my website at www.anitaburnett.com/winbacklove.htm for more information regardless of what stage your relationship is in. I would love to send you a Free Copy of 101 Romantic Ideas to put the spice back in your love life or win back your ex.