When you establish similarities with someone, you will aid their subconscious mind to sense as though there is a certain rapport with you. This is achieved quite easily through the mirror technique; communicating at the same speed they use, or mimicking their expressions and body positions in a illusive manner will help them feel more comfortable when speaking with you. Over time and with proper training, you will find that your own subconscious mind will take note to constantly mirror in a non-officious way, and you will be able to build up rapport easily.
2)Trust your intuition
People often mention that chess Grandmasters are able to beat even the most advanced chess computers because they have the ability to rely on their intuition. It is not just based on feelings, but a hunch that is formed based on previous experiences that will allow you to analyze what would be the next best move. Your intuition is based on skills and knowledge, so learn to encourage and trust in your intuition!
3)Dispel Myths about Making Friends
It is not true that liking or disliking someone is a random and uncontrollable event. In fact, it is easy to make someone like you as the emotions associated with liking someone is controlled by the mind. If you understand and accept this, you will find it easier to put into place the little techniques that will help you move ahead by making the proper connections at the right place.
4)Appeal to what they Need
Most of the time, looking for companionship or associates, people look for someone who is similar to themselves and yet has something else that they would like to achieve. For example, professionals gravitate towards people who are equally skilled in the same field, but who have vast knowledge in another field as well, or who are able to exude greater leadership potential. Thus, it would be beneficial to you to identify the traits that most people would like to have and actively display it, such as having self confidence.
5)Position yourself
Look at yourself critically in the mirror, or survey a group of close friends. Question them how they would describe you in a few words. Is this how you want to be seen by others? If not, take active steps now to adjust the way you position yourself. If you can be able to correctly position yourself at work, you will find it easier to gain the attention of your boss, or get a step up from the competition for that next promotion!
From the 5 techniques above, it is obvious that programming your mind has many benefits. With practice, you will find it an unconscious habit that you portray or pull off when interacting with others.
