Legally speaking, erotic massage is not available for men or women in all of the United States except Nevada. Massage as a practice is heavily regulated by respective state boards, (almost) all of which prohibit any act deemed inappropriate for a therapeutic setting. For example, Section 29.1(b)(5) of the Regents regulations on massage practice in New York State prohibits "immoral conduct," which is defined as massage of genital areas and massage of a client who is not properly draped for massage, or by a massage therapist who is not properly dressed.

A licensed massage/bodywork therapist is, in fact, required by law to stop practicing the moment he or she suspects that the client would like something more than a good neck rub, shoulder work, etc. That said, erotic massage for women is, nonetheless attainable, despite its spurious legal status in the US.

A simple web search of "massage for women" brought up a number of services, which tended to call their service "sensual" massage, while advertising "gorgeous hunks" (as per Hunkmania website). Indeed, another service accessible at Malecourtesan website offered the willing lady an "exclusive paramour for sensuous fulfillment & tender intimacy!" Now, that sounds not only erotic, but a little creepy. After the guy rubs you down to your heart's content, it seems he will cuddle with you, too. In addition, there are a fair number of "tantric erotic massages" available, except I am pretty sure that "tantric" is supposed to refer to thoughts and not any sort of touch.

At any rate, these kinds of services can also be found in the back pages of most free-weekly newspapers, and are searchable on craigslist. I would guess that practically any advertised male-escort serviceman would be willing to provide erotic massage for a sizable tip.

It is difficult to ascertain what exactly these services mean by "sensual massage," and it is important to note, that as erotic massage (for pay) is illegal, practitioners that provide this kind of service have to be very careful about how and what they advertise. A licensed massage therapist friend of mine told me that therapists will often check into the nature of questionable practices, and report any and all illegal activity. It seems that even the seemingly benign business of relaxation is quite cut-throat.

However, the woman that would like to purchase an erotic massage, but does not want to take part in an illegal activity, can always take her business outside of the US. Among other nations, Japan, Thailand, and New Zealand stand out as havens for erotic massage. Because Japanese law is famously lax regarding prostitution, prohibiting only full on coitus, there is quite an array of erotic services available legally.

According to Feministing website, there has been an increase in the amount of middle aged (40-50) year old Japanese housewives requesting erotic massage from "rent-a-fling" services. To be fair, it has been socially acceptable for Japanese men to receive such services from girls, so this recent surge is kind of a backlash of sorts.

As with anything, it seems that if a woman really wants an erotic massage, she will find it without too much trouble. Well, possibly some legal trouble, but I guess that is another story.