Winning back your ex can be a long and arduous process, and will require a lot of will and determination. Winning back your ex is by no means as simple as wooing a person you have only recently met, instead you are trying to woo a person that knows you almost as well as you know yourself, making the entire process very difficult.

The end of any relationship will indicate that something was not going right in a relationship. In order to successfully reignite the flames that once existed between your ex and yourself, you must be willing to makes certain changes and sacrifices in order to ensure the next relationship will not go along the same path as the previous one.

After a break up, be sure to give your partner some time to adjust to the change and to come to terms with what has happened. Once you feel sufficient time has passed, begin by contacting your ex. This initial contact is not to discuss the end of the relationship, nor is it to discuss their feelings. This phone call, e-mail (or however you opt to make first contact) is simply to enquire as to their well being. After this first form or contact, slowly begin to increase the frequency with which you contact them.

Whilst spending time with your ex partner, the processes in which to win them back will differ for males and females.

In order to win back and ex boyfriend or husband, you will have to show him the efforts you have made to change anything that may have negatively affected your relationship in the first place. It will also benefit you to get him involved in some activities that you may have previously enjoyed as a couple, as this will serve to remind him of how good the relationship was at times and will show him what he is missing out on by not being in a relationship with you. Remain cool and confident and avoid scaring him away by obsessing over his feelings, thoughts and why the relationship ended.

To win back an ex girlfriend or wife, you will have to appeal to her emotions and feelings. It is very important for a woman to feel that her emotional needs will be fulfilled in a relationship. To show a woman that you are capable of fulfilling hers, show her that you genuinely value her opinions and feelings. Be attentive and listen carefully to what she says. Avoid becoming "just friends" with your ex by remaining attentive yet slightly detached.