Many girls wonder after a breakup: Is it smart to write my ex boyfriend a letter, to explain my feelings to him?

Regarding "getting a guy back" tactics, I can share a bit of my experience with you. I went through 2 breakups in the past (one after 5 years, and one after 1 and a half) and I usually find it very helpful to write my feelings on paper. The sad part is, if you write your ex boyfriend a letter expressing your inner most thoughts, or how broken you are about the situation, it does not improve the situation.

As you know breakups are happening every day, and there are some common trends in how girls and guys react to them. I am not trying to be negative here - Simple fact is: Guys usually don't respond very well to long, emotional letters from their ex girlfriend.

What a lot of women want, is "closure" after a relationship ends. That's why they often have an urge to send a letter to their ex boyfriend to explain their feelings. I don't recommend this!

I would suggest doing the following: Write your feelings down, but don't send them. Just do it to get a clear perspective on the situation.

If you really have to share your feelings, and your girlfriends are not enough, why don't you just post your feelings on a blog or some forum? That way, you will get a lot of advice on how to handle your specific situation, and it will be a lot smarter then sending a letter to your ex boyfriend.

Some honest truth: If you are thinking to send your ex boyfriend a letter to try and get him back.. I think you are making a mistake. There are way better methods of than sending letters.

Well I hope you found some value in my article, and if I can just give you one thing to keep in mind it would be this: Value your friends, and the time you spend with them. Dont take their love for granted.