When infidelity is first unearthed, spouses often feel as though their world is collapsing ? most spouses are left to ponder whether their marriage will survive.

Nearly 1 in 4 men and 1 in 10 women who are in a marriage have had affairs ? they range from casual to deep emotional attached relationships. Affairs that are both emotional and physical are devastating to a marriage.

In spite of those numbers, divorce may not have to be the final resolution. Committed relationships are able to survive infidelity. Many couples are able to emerge from infidelity with a solid, trusting relationship, but they must commit to counseling and allow time to heal while working toward there goal.

Moving on: Recovering your marriage

1. Terminating the affair. First, you must terminate the affair. Which includes all contact and communication with the other person?

2. Accepting accountability. Take responsibility if you where having the affair. If you where the victim consider, what you may have or more pointedly may not done, that lead to the unfaithfulness of your spouse.

3. Setting a common goal. You must both want to repair your marriage. It takes time to find out what went wrong and if it is truly possible to repair the marriage. Providing both spouses want to reconcile it will take time, energy and commitment.

4. Seek counseling. It is imperative that you seek counseling. By seeking counseling you will have a mediator who will be able to help in achieving your goals, they will also work to keep you on the right path.

5. Identify the problems. Infidelity, generally points to unseen problems in the relationship. By examining the relationship you will start to understand contributing factures that lead to the affair. You will than need to work to prevent them in the future.

6. Restoring trust. You must seriously commitment to reestablishing your marriage. Attending counseling as a couple will help confirm your commitment to the relationship while easing fears of continued secrecy.

7. Communicate. After the shock has passed, discuss openly and honestly what happened ? as difficult as in may be talking and hearing about the affair.

8. Forgiving. This is usually the hardest part for most people recovering from an affair. Forgiving does not come easily ? this could take a lifetime. Committing to the marriage and your partner, forgiving usually becomes easier with time.

9. Recommitting to the future. What you have gone through is emotionally and physically devastating. Through situations like these it is feasible you and your marriage will reemerge stronger than before.