Are you suffering from a recent break up? If you are, you are probably feeling the after effects of a break up. Everything seems tasteless, and you don't seem to be in the mood to do any work. Your friends call you and you don't even return their calls. Somehow, the world has turned from a colorful one to a gray one. And no matter how hard you try, you simply cannot get yourself out of this depressing state that you are in now.

Fortunately, all is not lost. Chances are, in your current depressed state, you haven't spent much time thinking about how to get your ex back. In your mind, you probably think this is impossible. Well, perhaps there is a ray of hope here. Perhaps there are ways that may just get your ex back that you haven't been able to imagine. How great it would be if you can get your ex back. Then everything would be back to normal. Here are some recommendations that you may not have thought about.

If your one and only goal is to get your ex back, then this is the time to be calm about things. If he or she doesn't want you to call, then back off a little. Give each other some time to cool off and think about things a little. And make good use of this time apart to really think about things. Somehow, a perfectly happy relationship has soured along the way. Your job, is to figure out what went wrong.

For example, are you looking for some change in your partner? If so, what causes this desire? What is this behavior that is causing the happiness? When you stand back and look at things from a different perspective, sometimes, the issue starts to become clearer. Maybe it's you who have been too demanding. Maybe it's you who needs to stop getting your partner to change.

For whatever the reason, you will be glad that you took some time off to think about things.

Next, once you feel that enough time have gone by, you may be tempted to make contact. Don't do it! This is the best time to test your feelings for each other. As the cliche saying goes, "absence makes the heart fonder". So give it some time, and see which direction your heart strings are pulling you. As time passes, ask yourself if you miss your partner more. If you find yourself missing your other half, that is a very positive sign.

Bear in mind that you are not making contact because you want to do some serious soul searching. That will give you the highest chance of getting back with your ex. You must not deliberately avoid contact just because you want to spite the other party or to save face. These are the wrong reasons, and doing so will only keep the two of you further apart.

As you give time for each other to heal caused by previous conflicts, your heart slowly opens up to love again. And when you feel love swelling up, you are in a better position to approach your ex and tell him or her how you actually feel.

Remember, what goes around comes around. If you want to get your ex back, start by giving, not taking. This is a sure fire way to get your ex back.