Did you know you had a hidden treasure in your spouse? Did you know that you could magically change who they are?

When you read this article you will thump yourself on your forehead and wonder what took you so long.

So what is this priceless gift that will change your spouse forever?

-You Are The Gift

The gift is the knowledge that YOU decide how you will view your spouse each day. Will you focus on their 3 annoying habits, or be grateful for the encouraging words and loving-kindness.

Will you grumble when they forget, again, to put the lid on the tooth paste or smile in gratitude when they hold out your chair for you at dinner?

We've often heard the saying, "Your attitude determines your altitude." So how high do you want your marriage relationship to grow? It's really up to you to decide what you will focus on and if you will look for the good.

-The Importance of A Positive Attitude

I've known for some time the importance of a positive attitude. I have tried to apply this to the situations I face in my life each day. However, I had an amazing revelation a few weeks ago regarding a gloomy attitude that I had developed about one of my husbands weaknesses.

I realized that until I really let it go and refused to let it bother me, he would never change. However, once my view changed...he would too.

The amazing thing about this is even if that weakness never goes away, I will see a change because I view the weakness from a different vantage point now. I don't try and attribute anything imperfect or negative in my day to that weakness.

Is the weakness still there? I don't know, I'm not looking any more. What is there is a kinder, funnier amazing man. The man who has always been there, but I sometimes didn't notice because I was focusing on the trivial weakness.

-Are You Willing To Change?

The question to ask yourself is, "Are you willing to be the kind of spouse you dream of?" When you behave like you would like your spouse to behave, a magical thing happens to your view point and your situation.

It is amazing to watch the evolution of a marriage when at least one spouse is not only treating their loved one in a way they would like to be treated, but they are also view their "future knight in shining armor" as if they were already a knight.

-Look For The Good And You'll Find It

So instead of finding fault in the trivial things, look for the good things that you love about them. You'll soon discover the priceless gift, a happier you and an even better relationship with your spouse than you've had before.