Do you know that women read books like the The Rules that teaches women manipulate men and to be more challenging with men? The reason given for this is that men love a challenge and are born to respond to a challenge. Take away the challenge and men can loose interest in a women in a very short time. Most men are generally are not so attracted to easy, very available women. Men like to pursue women and the chase. Most men run a mile from a needy women that comes on too strong.
What are some of the rules that women use to create this challenge? And what happens when men start to play womens rules back to them?
One important rule is for the women not to ask a man out first and don't talk to him first too. The man needs to make the first move and be directive. Asking him out first is no challenge to a man. He might be flattered and have a one night stand but deep down he thinks you are too easy and would not want a longer term relationship.
Another rule is to not answer every phone call and not to call him. The man should be calling the women and pursuing the women and not the other way around. Needy women call men a lot and this can cause the average man to loose interest. The more the women is unavailable, the more the challenge it is for the man.
Women are taught to always end the phone call first to create a certain amount of mystery. This creates longing in the man and he will want to spend more time with you. Women are also taught not to open up too fast and keep some feminine mystery.
Another ploy women use to create sexual tension is only to have a kiss on the first date and not to be intimate on first few dates. The longer the women holds off, the more sexual frustrated the man will become.
It seems a general principle that intimacy after meeting at a bar can lead to a one night stand situation. Generally these types of situations do not lead onto a deeper,love relationship.
I feel men need to learn to start recognize the games women play with them and how men can be emotionally manipulated. Some dating experts even suggest to play these rules back at women.
For example, one dating expert says to always end the phone call first with a women and not to ring too often. If you try this it really does create more attraction in women. Women hate needy men and men need to learn not to express this in their behavior. The more needy the man is the more often he will call the woman.
Women are also attracted to men that are a challenge and also attracted to men that do not fall for their games. Try saying no to the next thing a women asks you to do and see how she reacts. Women want a strong man that is self confident and in his own reality and comfortable about himself and his sexuality.
