Exactly what problem are you attempting to address? By and large each of us has a need to become clear about what we want. This is true for everything, from what is useful to dealing with painful feelings. The problem is to be able to reach that clarity and then to find the solutions to whatever problems we have to deal with. The 7 Words System offers a easy instinctive method that makes it possible for us to get a greatly improved appreciation of what it is that we are looking for. It kicks off with the word No. At first we need define accurately what it is that actually we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Specific skills neccessary for communication: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

What can you learn from others? The second step links with the word Hello. We need to make ourselves open to new possibilities if we want to open out our scope of keys to any predicaments we get into. Is that reasonably logical? To get something fresh we will need to widen our scope and look where we have not previously looked before. Novel thoughts, new contacts , new situations and new things are all aspects of giving awareness to something we have not until that time lived through. It requires that we trade old for new, that we have something to offer in reasonable return for what we want to obtain for ourselves.

Specific skills neccessary for communication: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

What do you most value about the offered options? Among all available options, some are more pleasing than others and we give them a higher importance, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Repeatedly, we disregard the meaning of what we have, slide unconsciously into thanklessness and are likely to presume things will always be the way they have been before. It's more than just civility to let somebody see our appreciation for things we attach importance to; it has a significant effect in helping us to achieve our ambitions. In some unconscious way, we are magnetized to what we express appreciation for, and yet it's equally valid to say that we are able to draw them to us too. We improve our charisma when we say Thanks and therefore, in doing this, we smoothly bring things towards us.

Specific skills neccessary for communication: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

Whichever way you go, from now on life has changed and will be forever different. Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and concerns a course of development that has four phases. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying Goodbye to is a possible stage of change, which is understood basically as utter eradication of a viable path of action that we had been going towards and in future will not follow. It is a crossroad point in our pick of would-be futures. Goodbye is different from No in that it suggests that we have had connection already, which now needs to end contrasted with No's denial in the first place. Firm decisions cut the past away completely and that incisiveness makes an opportunity that otherwise does not happen.

Specific skills neccessary for communication: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

How do you cooperate to manifest your dreams? The future opens out according to the routines of what has gone before unless we take control of it and bend it to our aspirations. This obliges us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, exact and positive transformed into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is a bit illusory and the second is much more motivated and controlled. For a vision to become real there must be help. Nothing can be achieved without winning the benefit of others - this takes skill, possibly influence, , even motivation. It is not always essential to present something such as money or money's worth.

Specific skills neccessary for communication: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist, which underlie the issue? Sorry, the sixth word, is best seen as repairing harm done whenever we've been thoughtless or heedless to the needs or wants of someone else. The best idea is to make sure we forestall the need to say it by being considerate earlier. Why? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against our better purposes and diminish our probability of accomplishing what we intend, so it is simply more reasonable to take into account others as well as ourselves. It is all about being responsible, having some feelings towards someone whom we've upset and making atonement when we've got it wrong. Only then is it feasible to forestall or fix any resentment and release the lasting unpleasantness that otherwise would increase and rankle

Specific skills neccessary for communication: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Not every path is workable, that's the whole point of being creative...find a way that works for all concerned. The concluding point of our 7 Words approach relates with acceptance; there are circumstances when we simply have to endure what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be good wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in actual reality we can't. We always need to abide what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for. The best thing is to place reliance on the fact that everything in due course turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when perceived in the perspective of the longer term. Without doubt it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! However hold your horses and you'll see that the unanticipated episodes, the surprises and disappointments are actually the best bits veiled as misfortune.